What do you wear to sleep when your kids are older

amother

Tue, Feb 16 2021, 11:03 am

I am yeshivish and wear short sleeve pajamas with long pants but my kids are getting older and I dont know if it's appropiate to wear that in front of them. When I go out of the room I put on a sweatshirt and a skirt but they do sometimes walk in my room and see me in my pajamas. SHould I be switching to a nightgown? I really dont want to but would do it if I felt like it's the right thing.

thanks!

amother

Tue, Feb 16 2021, 11:11 am

amother [ Sienna ] wrote:

longer, tunic-length tee with 3/4 sleeves, and leggings.

do you have any links? where would I buy such a thing?

amother

Green

Tue, Feb 16 2021, 11:16 am

If you feel it would be the right thing, then go for it.

I wear nightgowns because I am not comfortable, tznius-wise, walking around in pants/short sleeves. And I do walk around my house in PJs frequently and have no interest in changing or wearing another layer (bathrobe) every time my baby cries and I need to leave my bedroom.

amother

Wine

Tue, Feb 16 2021, 11:55 am

I don't change into pjs until I go to sleep.
I change into clothes first thing in the AM.
I wear sweatpants and a T-shirt to sleep.
If my kids knock on my door while I am settling down or in the middle of the night I keep the blanket over me.
In an emergency I run out in those clothes.

amother

Cerise

Tue, Feb 16 2021, 11:57 am

I wear loose sweatshirts and sweat pants or knit sets.
I put on a robe when leave my room.
Yeshivish - dh would probably rather I wear nightgown but doesn’t say anything.

mha3484

Tue, Feb 16 2021, 12:10 pm

My oldest is 10 I try to be pretty covered around him but not 100% like if I was leaving the house. I have a bunch of these soft foldover skirts from a pregnancy and a couple maxi skirts that I retired from outdoor clothing that I wear with a tee shirt and hoodie. I like the hoodie so I can loosely cover my hair after I shower without putting on a snood. Its a nice middle ground tznius and comfort wise.

amother

Dodgerblue

Tue, Feb 16 2021, 12:13 pm

Tznius nightgown. I have teenager boys who are up and around all the time and changing when I want to leave my room is a pain.

motherhood613

Tue, Feb 16 2021, 1:24 pm

really it boils down to what you feel is best for you - and your family.

However, if you don't feel like you want to take the plunge, you can always get a zip up robe (maxi, tznius neckline, often have hoods) to throw on as your "pj's" to walk around the house with. Not as bulky as an actual housecoat/bathrobe, and may give your kids the impression that you wear tznius pj's, which isn't a bad thing. Lots of women wear these around their house in the mornings or at night (or whenever, no judgement!!)

Many frum stores sell them, but I've also seen on Shein for cheap.

Here are some websites that should carry:
-the Lingerie Shop NY https://thelingerieshopny.com
-Me Moi https://memoi.com/collections/.....ewear
-Myself Lingerie: https://myselflingerie.com/col.....wraps
-Shein:
1) https://us.shein.com/Contrast-......html
2) https://us.shein.com/Varsity-S......html

amother

Tue, Feb 16 2021, 1:31 pm

amother [ Blush ] wrote:

If I were you, I'd work on getting my kids not to walk into my room.

How do I do that?? my 3 year old is always coming in complaining about this and that..

amother

Green

Tue, Feb 16 2021, 1:32 pm

amother [ OP ] wrote:

How do I do that?? my 3 year old is always coming in complaining about this and that..

Lock the door.

amother

Tue, Feb 16 2021, 1:33 pm

amother [ Green ] wrote:

Lock the door.

no, I feel like that's not right. I would do it before I go to sleep but not for the whole night.

amother

Wheat

Tue, Feb 16 2021, 1:36 pm

You can wear long sleeve nightie with leggings.
My bedroom door is always wide open and my kids don't come in. They stand by the door and call me.
I don't leave my room without a robe over my pj's.

amother

Ivory

Tue, Feb 16 2021, 1:38 pm

I wear baggy pants (not tight leggings), short sleeve T-shirt and then a huge (men’s 2XL) hoodie. The hoodie hangs to mid thigh, and I also use the hood to cover my hair instead of snood or tichel.

lamplighter

Tue, Feb 16 2021, 6:47 pm

I didnt have children for many years. When I had my oldest I took upon myself to wear nightgowns.
It depends on what you are comfortable with your kids seeing. My kids always see me tznius but they have seen pajama pants under nightgowns and my hair bc my hair seems to reject tichels during the night.
I do like never having to think about if Im dressed enough to leave my room.

amother

Jade

Tue, Feb 16 2021, 7:09 pm

I find even tznius nightgowns a problem as I don’t like wearing a bra at night and my nipples pokes through... my boys are teens already

amother

Wheat

Tue, Feb 16 2021, 7:37 pm

amother [ Jade ] wrote:

I find even tznius nightgowns a problem as I don’t like wearing a bra at night and my nipples pokes through... my boys are teens already

That's why I don't leave my room without a robe on.