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mommy3b2c


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Tue, Feb 16 2021, 9:15 pm
Another thread had me thinking about this. What is the reason for dressing tznius in front of your children. I understand that walking around in lingerie is not appropriate. I get not showing cleavage. But what could be wrong with wearing sweatpants and a tee shirt in front of your kids?
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small bean


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Tue, Feb 16 2021, 9:32 pm
I don't think something those of us who are not makpid will be able to understand. It's a sensitivity to be tzinus all the time even when we are not required.
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essie14


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Wed, Feb 17 2021, 12:51 am
My kids have no problem understanding that going out is different than at home. Ever since DD was 2 years old, she reminds me to put a hat on when we go out. I do not cover my hair in our house, but when I go out I always do. Its not mixed messages.
At home we wear pajamas, including her, but we don't go outside like that.
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Wed, Feb 17 2021, 4:30 am
To lead by example. To maintain their sensitivity. I also feel like it's not cavodik for children to see their parents in a non tznius way, whatever non tznius means to you.
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LovesHashem


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Wed, Feb 17 2021, 7:18 am
In these communities people are more makpid on being tzniyus even when they don't have to. Women wear coverups to a only women's pool as well. They where a tzniyus bathing suit or a cover up in the water.
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mommy3b2c


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Wed, Feb 17 2021, 7:23 am
amother [ Puce ] wrote: | It's kind of complex with different aspects but to sum up what everyone said:
- שויתי ה' לנגדי תמיד
Hashem is always before me. We dress tzniusly all the time. Hair covering, elbows, knees, legs, collarbone.
- בגד איש- not everyone holds it's okay to wear pants
- Chinuch of the children- to be a proper role model of tznius. There is also a measure of respect that is lost when children see their mother dressed inappropriately.
- Is there a halachic source that says one can be less covered in front of children? I don't see why children are different than other people. |
To your last point, yes. It is Halacha that rules of tznius and shomer Negia and Yichud do not apply to your own children.
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jd1212


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Wed, Feb 17 2021, 7:45 am
amother [ Puce ] wrote: | Shomer negiah and yichud, obviously.
I would like to see a source about tznius if anyone has one. |
The most basic sources to my knowledge delineate to what standard of tznius a man can daven/say Shema near. Not who else can see her.
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Crookshanks


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Wed, Feb 17 2021, 11:10 am
My mother only owns nightgowns-no pajama pants or leggings. We once visited her (somewhat equally yeshivish) friend's house and she did her morning workout in leggings and a sport t shirt in front of her kids. I was a little surprised, but to each their own. I personally don't wear nightgowns so this is something I'll have to figure out.
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ShishKabob


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Wed, Feb 17 2021, 11:56 am
essie14 wrote: | My kids have no problem understanding that going out is different than at home. Ever since DD was 2 years old, she reminds me to put a hat on when we go out. I do not cover my hair in our house, but when I go out I always do. Its not mixed messages.
At home we wear pajamas, including her, but we don't go outside like that. | Even though I am worlds apart from this way, I agree with this. It says in the Shulchan Aruch rules of how you dress, when it's in your courtyard or in the public. There is a difference. Even if many of us do lifnim mishuras hadin and dress tzniusdig in our homes at all times. But I have no issue that there can be a very definite difference when you go out or when you are at home. And I don't think it sends mixed messages.
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Crookshanks


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Wed, Feb 17 2021, 11:56 am
amother [ Jade ] wrote: | I don't know if people verbalize it as such, but I agree this is most often behind the motivation.
Nothing wrong with that, if that's your parenting style/outlook. |
Very true!
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lamplighter


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Wed, Feb 17 2021, 12:10 pm
I dress tznuis everywhere except in my bedroom, bathroom or pool.
Nothing to do with my kids. Nothing I need to explain to them or anyone else.
Its a standard of tznius that I chose. I think shulchan aruch supports it.
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