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Mon, Feb 22 2021, 4:25 pm
My daughter is a bright, inquisitive and beautiful 7 year old that is almost 30...
I am a bit nerdy and athletic. The programmer who dresses in sweatshirts all day and changes into a fresh sweatshirt for a run.... (No worries, I am pretty and get dressed up sometimes too. I appreciate the aesthetics too, but I'm just trying to give ya background.)
I want to support my daughter in developing her own self, even if its far from and unrelated to me.
She has been speaking a lot lately about wanting to model. She will pose like whatever she imagines a model should look like and ask me to take pictures. She loves looking at advertisements and picking out the girl models. and recently she told me that she wants to be a model too.
I was taken aback. I kind of brushed her off. But on second thought, I don't think I want to be brushing her off even if this is something that I personally am not so comfortable with. I want her to know that she can always be whatever she wants to be. I want her to be able to speak to me about it even if its the type of thing that my go against my take on the world.
On the other hand, she is 7. (lol, she can fool you any day...) and needs a mom to help her shape her world. I don't want her doing (or secretly dreaming about doing) stuff that define her as a body or a face.
I am sorry I am rambling.
I would love to get some perspective from other Moms.
Conversations to have, Practical advice and application, Opinions- I would love to hear it all.
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Zehava


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Mon, Feb 22 2021, 4:29 pm
You can validate her desire without actually allowing her to go through with it.
“Oh yeah modeling would be so fun! You’d get to pose and have your picture published all over!”
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amother


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Mon, Feb 22 2021, 4:40 pm
When I was 7, I daydreamed and talked about becoming all sorts of things that would never cross my mind in a million years now. I wanted to be a ballerina, a farmer, a dancer, a singer, a fashion designer, a model, an actress..... I never did any of those things!!! My mom let me daydream and talk about this stuff but never specifically encouraged me. Once I was old enough to actually decide what to do with my life, there were many other factors that needed to be sensibly taken into account. And obviously I had a lot more seichel to do it.
I wouldn't make a big deal about it either way at this point.
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Mon, Feb 22 2021, 4:40 pm
This is like a 3 year old telling you he wants to be a fire truck. "Yeah for sure sweetie, you should definitely do that!" It's a phase, she'll outgrow it soon enough. Humor her in the meantime
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Tue, Feb 23 2021, 2:46 am
The child modeling scene is not as glamorous as your dd may think, and it sends terrible messages to children from a young age. This isn't about pressuring her to fit your mold of what you think she should be. It's about protecting her from permanent damage.
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Tue, Feb 23 2021, 3:14 am
My.mother had a friend who was a children's clothes buyer for a very well known shop on England, and she would often give my mother clothes samples for us. A few times people we didn't know came and took photos of us playing in the garden wearing our new clothes.
That was all we ever knew about it. I suppose we were modelling the clothes, and I don't know where the photos were used afterwards. They stayed in the background. My mother told us to just ignore them and do what we wanted.
In retrospect, she managed it very well. She obviously specified no posing or make up, and natural lighting, spontaneous type photos only. We didn't know what it was about and never became self conscious about it. I would have hated real modelling, but was barely aware that this was even happening.
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