Should I not ask what they want

amother

Dodgerblue

Mon, Mar 22 2021, 2:55 pm

amother [ OP ] wrote:

Again, I didn’t ask as an open ended question. I gave ideas of things I think she would like and appreciate and kind of asked her to choose and if not, she could give me other ideas. She’s the type who likes being given options.

So when she didn't like your ideas, she was put on the spot and had to ask you for something. That can be uncomfortable for some people.

Just bring whatever you think would be nice, and don't overthink it. You're doing your best to be a gracious guest, and I'm sure it's appreciated.

tophat

Mon, Mar 22 2021, 2:57 pm

Someone who has everything she needs might really appreciate a contribution to a tzedaka fund. Especially if it feeds people for Pesach!