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Tue, Apr 06 2021, 9:47 pm
amother [ Fuchsia ] wrote: | You seem to have issues with that. I’m sorry your childhood/Young Adult years didn’t look like that. It really is a lovely privilege and a gift to be able to give your children. |
Wow, I see it almost the polar opposite!
As I see it, the best gift I can give my young adults is the confidence that comes from knowing you can handle responsibility. Paying one's own way, even when under a parental roof, offers a really good start in life.
If a young adult has a disability impeding that goal, then offering the therapeutic and executive functioning support necessary to move forward seems to me the kindest, most loving way. Not giving an allowance to further the stagnation.
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Wed, Apr 07 2021, 5:49 pm
I've seen this from the other end.
Currently, I have a brother in law who was allowed to be dependent on his parents for his whole life. My mechutanim are now dead. We have helped some, but I feel very resentful. He is also struggling.
If you expect your child to outlive you, then please help your child become independent now.
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Wed, Apr 07 2021, 5:54 pm
OP, it's clear you are really thinking things through.
Would this child be eligible to open an ABLE account?
Get vocational training?
Other supports?
I would love to brainstorm with you, if you feel comfortable.
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dankbar


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Wed, Apr 07 2021, 6:57 pm
Govt counts $50 per person for food weekly (non kosher )
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imasinger


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Wed, Apr 07 2021, 7:22 pm
amother [ OP ] wrote: | After many years of patience, working with multiple therapists, its easy to give advice from afar. |
Believe me, I'm familiar!
Does he have a diagnosis?
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Wed, Apr 07 2021, 9:18 pm
I was going to say more like $300 a month but maybe it should be $200 and then $100 in a money market fund of some kind for later for some years down the road.
And some arrangement such as weekly chores/odd jobs around the house. Or continual outside effort at a useful marketable skill of some kind.
Or maybe attempt at disability or social worker and/or vocational rehab program.
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