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amother




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Post Wed, Apr 07 2021, 12:46 pm
My son will be getting engaged y"h soon. The day of the vort will be her birthday.
I would like to get her something small and personal but I am so bad at this I need some suggestions.
She is the type who will go around without makeup and a slinky skirt with sneakers if that gives you an idea of the type of girl she is.
Any suggestions are welcomed.
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newima




 
 
 
 

Post Wed, Apr 07 2021, 12:49 pm
Does she have hobbies or interests ... gym gear, art, show she likes,
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OOTforlife




 
 
 
 

Post Wed, Apr 07 2021, 12:55 pm
That's so nice of you!

New sneakers? (With receipt, so she can adjust for size if necessary)

Books or a magazine subscription, if you or DS know what she reads?
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imasinger




 
 
 
 

Post Wed, Apr 07 2021, 12:57 pm
Mazel tov!

I'm all for Amazon GC when I don't know a person well.

DS should also get her something extra for her birthday.
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amother




Lilac
 

Post Wed, Apr 07 2021, 1:06 pm
MIL bought me simple but pretty gold hoop earrings for my birthday when I was engaged. (Okay, she actually asked her daughter to get them for me.) I was really touched. And I'm the type to go around with no makeup and a slinky skirt to this day!
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amother




Blue
 

Post Wed, Apr 07 2021, 1:08 pm
Bag or wallet (my dh bought me one when we were engaged and I’m still using it 15 years later). Album for pics.
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Crookshanks




 
 
 
 

Post Wed, Apr 07 2021, 1:10 pm
I got weekday earrings.
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amother




Chocolate
 

Post Wed, Apr 07 2021, 1:17 pm
I got engaged about a week an a half before my birthday. My in-laws got me a small, everyday gold bracelet. This was 25 years ago. It is not the worlds more interesting or glamorous bracelet and I wear it with my watch-it is not a show-stopper, but it made such a wonderful impression.
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wiki




 
 
 
 

Post Wed, Apr 07 2021, 1:19 pm
Jewelry. Something simple and non-glitzy.
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amother




Honeydew
 

Post Wed, Apr 07 2021, 1:19 pm
My sister is a kallah and her future MIL gave her a very nice cosmetics bag set for her birthday.
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suremom




 
 
 
 

Post Wed, Apr 07 2021, 1:30 pm
imasinger wrote:
Mazel tov!

I'm all for Amazon GC when I don't know a person well.

DS should also get her something extra for her birthday.

I would appreciate an actual item. I feel very not cared for when getting a GC. Like it was a must to get a gift, but she couldn't be bothered to put in thought.
Simple hoops, rings, bags, uggs slippers, invite to night out at restaurant etc.
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amother




Violet
 

Post Wed, Apr 07 2021, 1:34 pm
I got a beautiful jewelry box. Was a nice idea.
I think a handbag/clutch is also nice.
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SixOfWands




 
 
 
 

Post Wed, Apr 07 2021, 1:37 pm
I don't know why, but I think that any simple jewelry might be -- confusing -- on the same day as the vort, especially if there's a minhag to gift certain jewelry during the engagement.

That's why I like the idea of a nice toiletry bag (NOT cosmetics, which could be seen as criticism) or a wallet with a shoulder strap.
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chanchy123




 
 
 
 

Post Wed, Apr 07 2021, 1:39 pm
I agree it should be a thing not a gift card, but not something that she’ll feel pressured to wear or use around you. She’ll be happy to receive something from you even if she doesn’t end up using it. Maybe a book? New earphones?
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amother




Amethyst
 

Post Wed, Apr 07 2021, 1:40 pm
I got engaged the day of my vort.

Mil gave me a perfume. Loved it.
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amother




Gold
 

Post Wed, Apr 07 2021, 1:43 pm
Got a handbag almost 10 years later and still appreciate it every time

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cnc




 
 
 
 

Post Wed, Apr 07 2021, 1:47 pm
I got a nice weekday set of bangles for my birthday that was a few weeks after my engagement. I still wear them and it’s been around 15 years .
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imasinger




 
 
 
 

Post Wed, Apr 07 2021, 1:59 pm
.Not worthy I bow to the superior sensitivities posted here. You all are right, I was wrong.

OP, do you have any connection to the machatanim or shadchan to get a clue?
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English3




 
 
 
 

Post Wed, Apr 07 2021, 2:53 pm
amother [ Amethyst ] wrote:
I got engaged the day of my vort.

Mil gave me a perfume. Loved it.

Some people get engaged b4? I got a jewelry roll, I loved it
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watergirl




 
 
 
 

Post Wed, Apr 07 2021, 3:05 pm
suremom wrote:
I would appreciate an actual item. I feel very not cared for when getting a GC. Like it was a must to get a gift, but she couldn't be bothered to put in thought.
Simple hoops, rings, bags, uggs slippers, invite to night out at restaurant etc.

This is just one of those times you can't win... I feel uncared for when I get a gift that I would have preferred to chose on my own and I think a gift certificate is the best way to show you care. My mother in law, even after 15 years, has no idea what my taste is and so every gift she buys me is either her taste or a household item (literally tupperware). She also feels a gc is inappropriate so she will never even ask me what I would like. She used to ask my kids what they would like and gets offended when they say a gc. My own family always sends them and we really appreciate it.
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