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Do you know geirim and BTs in real life?
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I don't know any geirim or BTs personally |
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3% |
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I know 1 ger but no BTs |
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0% |
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I know 1 BT but no geirim |
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0% |
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I know a few geirim but not BTs |
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0% |
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I know a few BTs but not geirim |
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8% |
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I know both geirim and BTs personally |
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84% |
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Other |
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Twinster
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Thu, Apr 22 2021, 10:20 am
JoyInTheMorning wrote: | Imamothers never cease to amaze me with their insularity, and lack of embarrassment at this insularity. And by the insensitivity. How would a giyoret or BT feel when she reads such a poll? Probably not too great.
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Maybe OP is a BT or giyores and wondering if the people around her know.
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thunderstorm
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Thu, Apr 22 2021, 10:20 am
Twinster wrote: | Maybe OP is a BT or giyores and wondering if the people around her know. |
That’s what I was thinking
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amother
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Thu, Apr 22 2021, 10:22 am
I mean, half my family consists of geirim and BT, and that's just family, not even including friends and people in my community. Honestly, I would find it very strange if someone didn't know a single ger or BT at all.
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JoyInTheMorning
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Thu, Apr 22 2021, 10:23 am
amother [ Indigo ] wrote: | I checked off that I know geirim and bts because I met many of them when I lived oot.
But now that I live in Lakewood I really don’t know whether someone is or isn’t. It’s not something that’s discussed. |
I'm happy that people in my community are open about it. One is not supposed to remind a BT or ger of their previous life, but if they want to talk about it and share their experiences, that's great. I am sorry that in some communities they're made to feel that it's something that isn't spoken about.
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SuperWify
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Thu, Apr 22 2021, 10:25 am
Yesterday my Christian hairdresser (she’s a doll btw and I love her) told me about her cousin who converted to Judaism. She asked me if that makes him a less-than Jew. I said absolutely not! G-d loves coverts. It says in our Bible we must love them extra.
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JoyInTheMorning
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Thu, Apr 22 2021, 10:25 am
Twinster wrote: | Maybe OP is a BT or giyores and wondering if the people around her know. |
If that's the case, I'm sorry OP has been made to feel that people around her are insular and unwelcoming of differences in background.
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SuperWify
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Thu, Apr 22 2021, 10:26 am
I know lots of BTs and a few converts. They impress the heck out of me.
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Twinster
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Thu, Apr 22 2021, 10:28 am
JoyInTheMorning wrote: | If that's the case, I'm sorry OP has been made to feel that people around her are insular and unwelcoming of differences in background. |
Is that how you see it?
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Notsobusy
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Thu, Apr 22 2021, 10:51 am
JoyInTheMorning wrote: | I'm happy that people in my community are open about it. One is not supposed to remind a BT or ger of their previous life, but if they want to talk about it and share their experiences, that's great. I am sorry that in some communities they're made to feel that it's something that isn't spoken about. |
I know quite a few BTs and some geirim here in Lakewood. Some are more open about it than others, but I feel like that's more of a personal choice. I don't see that the BTs and geirim are treated any different or are excluded in any way.
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amother
Royalblue
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Thu, Apr 22 2021, 10:53 am
Funny girl. Both my parents are BTs and both DH's are geirei tzedek. My best friend and her DH are both BTs. And there are so many more who I know...of course many less geirim than BTs but still.
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miami85
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Thu, Apr 22 2021, 10:56 am
My husband is a BT, and I had 2 classmates growing up who themselves converted along with their families, and I know several friends in my adult-life and acquaintances who were megayer.
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amother
Bronze
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Thu, Apr 22 2021, 10:56 am
JoyInTheMorning wrote: | I'm happy that people in my community are open about it. One is not supposed to remind a BT or ger of their previous life, but if they want to talk about it and share their experiences, that's great. I am sorry that in some communities they're made to feel that it's something that isn't spoken about. |
Why are you so angry?
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mynameismom
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Thu, Apr 22 2021, 11:03 am
My parents are both baalei teshuva and my husband is a get tzedek. It's hard for me to imagine that there are many people who have never met a BT or a ger. I don't even know if I could easily count how many I know.
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simcha2
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Thu, Apr 22 2021, 11:03 am
Notsobusy wrote: | I know quite a few BTs and some geirim here in Lakewood. Some are more open about it than others, but I feel like that's more of a personal choice. I don't see that the BTs and geirim are treated any different or are excluded in any way. |
When it comes to shidduchim, they certainly can be.
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amother
Linen
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Thu, Apr 22 2021, 11:06 am
JoyInTheMorning wrote: | Imamothers never cease to amaze me with their insularity, and lack of embarrassment at this insularity. And by the insensitivity. How would a giyoret or BT feel when she reads such a poll? Probably not too great.
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I'm a giyoret and I just found this poll mildly amusing. Comes to think of it, everyone I know knows at least one ger (me! It's a logical conundrum). Never met people who haven't
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amother
Pewter
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Thu, Apr 22 2021, 11:10 am
What are we some type of aliens?
I’m a geyoris but most people think I’m a BT bc my father was Jewish and I look very Jewish, whatever that means.
I truly believe that hashem is especially watching out for me, as the Torah says, and although I live in a yeshivish community I haven’t had any issues. I had an easy time with shidduchim, getting my kids into school etc. I guess there must be some close minded people who see me as less than, but I prefer to spend most of my time with people who follow the Torah so no worries on that
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Notsobusy
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Thu, Apr 22 2021, 11:15 am
simcha2 wrote: | When it comes to shidduchim, they certainly can be. |
That's true, I think it's harder for the BT or ger themself, but their children have an easier time. Most of the families I know have kids who married into FFB families.
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amother
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Thu, Apr 22 2021, 11:17 am
Welll, one of my parents is a ger.
Growing up many of my classmates had parents who were BTs.
Never had issues getting married bh nor did my siblings. One of my husbands parent is a BT.
Looking into shidduchim now for my kids and would actually prefer someone who is from a similar background. This is for many reasons but one is that occasionally you do meet FFBs who think that weirdly they are better people because their ancestry is all frum.
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essie14
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Thu, Apr 22 2021, 11:27 am
My father , his siblings and many of his cousins are BT. I also was involved in kiruv since I was a teenager so I know about a thousand BTs, at least. A lot of my friends' parents in my community where I grew up were BTs. Our neighbor was a ger as well as a few others in our community.
My community where I live now is a huge mix, there are many gerim and tons of BTs, as well as FFbs.
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amother
Oak
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Thu, Apr 22 2021, 11:30 am
This is weird because I considered myself open minded and have friends from many communities... but come to think of it, I don't think I know any baalei teshuva IRL. Unless you count all my amother friends on here
I was friends with a giyores at one point (I've moved since) but no BTs. And I know another ger that is part of our community (I think his wife is a BT, but I can't count it as I don't know them personally)
I'm literally shaking my head right now. I can't believe I never thought about this. I'd be thrilled to get to know and befriend any gerim or BTs (or FFBs) I guess it just never happened? So weird.
To put this into context, I've lived in the tristate area large Jewish communities my whole life, and also, I'm chassidish.
ETA: Also! I know someone who grew up frum, (so I didn't think about it before) but she was megayer as a little girl when her family was megayer.
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