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amother
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 Mon, May 03 2021, 12:35 pm
My son has ADHD and we are having a hard time finding a med and dosage that will work without side affects.
That being said the rebbi is having a hard time with him in class.
DS comes home telling me that kids are picking on him and when he goes to defend himself he is the one to get into trouble not the other boys.
I am sure my son is not 100% innocent but I find it unfair that my son gets kicked out and suspended and the other boys get nothing.
The rebbi knows about it but I feel he is so overwhelmed by having to discipline my son in class that he just takes the other boys side and just blames my son.
I just dont know what to do anymore.
I told my son that when the boys start up with him just ignore and walk away and tell the rebbi.
My son says he doesnt want to be a tattletale which I understand but in this case maybe he needs to.
Any thoughts on what to do for my son would be welcomed.
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#BestBubby
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Mon, May 03 2021, 1:09 pm
Kids who lack friends are easy target for being bullied, picked on.
Pirkei Avos says "Buy" yourself a friend.
Help DS choose a boy who he likes and he thinks would be receptive to being friends.
Treat friend to outings (bowling, ice cream store, etc.)
Have DS take extra snacks to share with his friend.
Hope this helps. Hatzlochah!
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amother
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Mon, May 03 2021, 1:32 pm
| #BestBubby wrote: | Kids who lack friends are easy target for being bullied, picked on.
Pirkei Avos says "Buy" yourself a friend.
Help DS choose a boy who he likes and he thinks would be receptive to being friends.
Treat friend to outings (bowling, ice cream store, etc.)
Have DS take extra snacks to share with his friend.
Hope this helps. Hatzlochah! |
He has good friends in class and boys are always calling him at home. Thats not the issue.
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chanatron1000
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Mon, May 03 2021, 1:35 pm
Kids who have already gotten in trouble a lot are often targets for this kind of bullying. The kids notice that the teachers are biased toward punishing the kid who is known to have some behavioral problems, so they target him and taunt him and provoke him knowing that they will get off scot free.
The rebbi needs to be aware that this may be what's happening.
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#BestBubby
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Mon, May 03 2021, 1:36 pm
Maybe find an expert in social skills to give your son some guidance on how to
respond to these provocations without getting in trouble.
Sometimes having someone to vent to is enough to calm DS so he won't over-react
and get into trouble.
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#BestBubby
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Mon, May 03 2021, 1:37 pm
Another strategy:
Promise a reward for DS if he was provoked but did not respond in a problematic way.
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amother
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Mon, May 03 2021, 2:30 pm
Do this kids come from big money or yichus?
If so, the school won't lift a finger. They need those donations.
The kids know that they can get away with murder. BTDT. 
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