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amother
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 Sat, Jul 03 2021, 10:51 pm
I used to really care about friends, siblings, etc. I was really interested, would call and ask how they're doing, and they did the same, and we kept abreast of each other's lives.
Then I became self-absorbed (stuff happened in my life) and I dont have headspace to care about anyone except my nuclear family. I only pick up the phone to call a friend etc. when I need an urgent favor.
It's sad.
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amother
Burgundy
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Sat, Jul 03 2021, 11:27 pm
| amother [ OP ] wrote: | I used to really care about friends, siblings, etc. I was really interested, would call and ask how they're doing, and they did the same, and we kept abreast of each other's lives.
Then I became self-absorbed (stuff happened in my life) and I dont have headspace to care about anyone except my nuclear family. I only pick up the phone to call a friend etc. when I need an urgent favor.
It's sad. |
You sound like you went through something traumatic and are just trying to function. It's not that you don't care just you only have so much emotional energy and you are using it to focus on your nuclear family.
Give yourself time to heal and whenever, if ever you feel up for it again, these relationships can still be there. Be kind and gentle to yourself and please don't judge calling yourself self absorbed. Sounds like survival mode.
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amother
Candycane
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Sat, Jul 03 2021, 11:32 pm
So normal, I am the same too.
It is normal to take care of yourself first, it is a must.
Acknowledge to yourself and if necessary to others that you are going through a difficult stage where you are not in a position to be there for others.
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mommymama
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Tue, Jul 06 2021, 7:49 am
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I think you are being too hard on yourself. Being "self-absorbed" is not the same as taking care of your responsibilities and priorities first. Even the fact that you recognize this and feel bad about it shows you are not self-absorbed! I'm sure with Hashem's help this will pass and as life gets easier you will not feel this way.
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amother
Electricblue
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Tue, Jul 06 2021, 8:36 am
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I used to reach out to friends much more. Then I married a man with 4 children and became an instant mom. I just cant do anything that I used to do. I also work outside the home and got pregnant. Life just changed to drastically for me so quickly that I couldn't keep up with the extras.
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