Are you excited to stay home or not (on roshni hashanah)

amother

Midnight

Mon, Sep 06 2021, 12:12 am

fourth option- I used to love going, then for a while as an older single, I wished I could have a husband to daven for me and kids to stay home with, now I have them BH but also wish I could go to shul...I guess the grass is greener on the other side....I know it's just a temporary stage though and I am doing my tafkid which I am very grateful for, and also that it's temporary and eventually I'll be able to go back.......but still frustrating, especially since I really developed a connection to davening b'tzibur and feel it's hard to be 'stuck' at home....but like I said, VERY grateful I am in this position

amother

Red

Mon, Sep 06 2021, 12:13 am

It was weird the first year, but now I'm 11 years in and I enjoy it. I don't have any pressure I can daven whenever at my own pace. And I can't imagine ever going to shul again.

SG18

Mon, Sep 06 2021, 12:20 am

I enjoyed going to shul, but am so happy that I had a baby this past year, I don't mind staying home with her at all. It's such a bracha.

YYYY

Mon, Sep 06 2021, 12:30 am

I loved going to shul, but that doesn't mean I'm "upset" to stay home. It's a huge bracha to have such problems.

YYYY

Mon, Sep 06 2021, 1:28 am

tichellady wrote:

I plan to bring my baby to shul.

Interesting. Never seen that, but maybe it’s the norm where you live.

tichellady

Mon, Sep 06 2021, 1:41 am

YYYY wrote:

Interesting. Never seen that,
but maybe it’s the norm where you live.

Yes it’s the norm where I live

amother

Opal

Mon, Sep 06 2021, 1:44 am

YYYY wrote:

Interesting. Never seen that, but maybe it’s the norm where you live.

Depends on the baby. My first was an angelic baby and did fine in shul until around 18 months or so.

After that it was baby AND toddler, so even if I could've brought the baby it was much more complicated.

This year I wish I could go, but I'm not going to fight with DH over whether it's okay to bring kids to shul right now, because every time we argue on this he ends up being right and I end up regretting chancing the exposure.

SuperWify

Mon, Sep 06 2021, 3:14 am

I didn’t enjoy shul growing up, I’m happy to stay home but I would also be happy if I can get 1 tefillah in shul.

Mayflower

Mon, Sep 06 2021, 3:14 am

The first few years after I became a mother, I had a hard time not going to shul. Then I got used to it, I found a way to daven at home...
However, this year, I feel my oldest daughter is really old enough to be in shul (but she still needs some help navigating the machzor - so I can't just leave her on her own). Not sure what to do - I didn't find a babysitter for my baby.

SuperWify

Mon, Sep 06 2021, 3:29 am

Just an idea for those that want to go to shul- My mother always switched off with neighbors. One went for Shachris and shofar and the other for Mussaf.

amother

Emerald

Mon, Sep 06 2021, 4:58 am

Just a little word that gives me chizuk every year. I heard a parable about a king who gave his people a one day opportunity to come over to his palace and ask for their needs. Meanwhile, he reserved a babysitter for his youngsters while the event goes on.
Low and behold, the babysitter shows up in line during the day!
The king yells at her, "You don't need to come and ask for your wants, I will give you whatever you need anyways, Don't worry."
"You were hired to take care of my kids".
We are hired to watch Hashem children, Our "job" is to take care of HIS children now, Iy"h HE will give us what we need regardless.
Gut Yom Tov!

amother

Melon

Mon, Sep 06 2021, 5:04 am

I have brought kids to shul. I dont attempt the whole service of course but I stay as much as I can.

Iymnok

Mon, Sep 06 2021, 5:16 am

I bring my kids for key parts. For example, I bring them all in for the end of neila.
This year DH will be davening with the neitz minyan. I’d love to go for tekios shofar, but that’s at like 8:30. The kids might go since their father is the baal tokea. I will likely go for the later blowing in the park, though I like to hear him blow the chumras.

amother

Trillium

Mon, Sep 06 2021, 5:20 am

I always had trouble with shul, especially as a single in my 20's, it was soo hard and I was very angry at myself. Like, why am I not holy and focused and intense like the people around me? Having babies and having an excuse not to go to shul was great! Later on, I came to terms with my ADHD and realized I never should have been so hard on myself. I still have to work on kavannah, like all people, but Hashem knows how hard it is for me.

amother

Bronze

Mon, Sep 06 2021, 5:37 am

I never enjoyed going to shul. I have a hard time davening in general. I am so relieved to have a very valid reason to stay home

thunderstorm

Mon, Sep 06 2021, 6:31 am

It was hard for me when I was younger. Then my kids grew up and I went to shul for a number of years and then ka”h I had a youngster again but by then I knew the drill and I knew that I will have the opportunity one day iy”h to go again so it didn’t bother me as much.

essie14

Mon, Sep 06 2021, 6:34 am

amother [ Midnight ] wrote:

This 100%

allthingsblue

Mon, Sep 06 2021, 7:38 am

I’m not upset to be home, I’m grateful to have good reasons to stay home aka children.

I do miss the intense spirituality of davening in shul,but now that it’s been a few years it would probably take some time for me to adjust to sitting in shul for a long time!