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amother




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Post Mon, Sep 20 2021, 9:56 am
Friend: can u do XYZ today? (Unreasonable favor on on erev yt)
Me: no I’m sorry I can’t
Friend: sorry for asking

Do I write “it’s ok” or “you can always ask” cuz she apologized even thou it’s not really ok?
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amother




IndianRed
 

Post Mon, Sep 20 2021, 9:58 am
You can always ask" sounds like a nice response to me.
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ra_mom




 
 
 
 

Post Mon, Sep 20 2021, 9:59 am
Just text enjoy your Yom Tov!
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Genius




 
 
 
 

Post Mon, Sep 20 2021, 10:00 am
You said no. She accepted it. What's the problem?
I wouldn't answer or just say good Yom tov:)
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amother




Olive
 

Post Mon, Sep 20 2021, 10:00 am
It depends on her general behavior and on your relationship. One person might have meant, oops, I overstepped my bounds, and another person might be passive aggressively trying to get you to feel bad. I'd send back a vague emoji or just good Yom tov and leave it at that.
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amother




Mayflower
 

Post Mon, Sep 20 2021, 10:01 am
You don't need to answer anything. If you feel like you must, just answer gut yom yov.
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dankbar




 
 
 
 

Post Mon, Sep 20 2021, 10:43 am
If you answer you can always ask then you are inviting her to make more demands/requests next time.
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zaq




 
 
 
 

Post Mon, Sep 20 2021, 10:47 am
I would answer cordially "No prob!" regardless of the tone of voice she used.
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amother




Dahlia
 

Post Mon, Sep 20 2021, 10:50 am
She sounds passive aggressive, I wound just ignore it
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amother




Bluebell
 

Post Mon, Sep 20 2021, 11:06 am
zaq wrote:
I would answer cordially "No prob!" regardless of the tone of voice she used.

Same.
I would respond “no worries. Have a good Yuntif “
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SixOfWands




 
 
 
 

Post Mon, Sep 20 2021, 11:18 am
amother [ Dahlia ] wrote:
She sounds passive aggressive, I wound just ignore it


Indeed. "Sorry I asked" doesn't sound like she's actually sorry; it sounds like she's angry that OP said no.

I'd simply say "chag sameach" and leave it at that.
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southernbubby




 
 
 
 

Post Mon, Sep 20 2021, 12:10 pm
What would life be without a few entitled noodniks?
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amother




Magenta
 

Post Mon, Sep 20 2021, 1:55 pm
amother [ OP ] wrote:
Friend: can u do XYZ today? (Unreasonable favor on on erev yt)
Me: no I’m sorry I can’t
Friend: sorry for asking

Do I write “it’s ok” or “you can always ask” cuz she apologized even thou it’s not really ok?


Just answer, “no problem. Have a great yom Tov.”
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