So my daughter in seminary called me today

amother

Thu, Sep 23 2021, 6:36 pm

She tells me she was walking on the sidewalk, and a grown man picked her up and placed her in the street, and told her she shouldn’t be walking on the sidewalk with men. I’m unsure how to respond to this. I’m not sure that telling the school would help. But I kind of feel that I shouldn’t let this go unaddressed.

amother

Azalea

Thu, Sep 23 2021, 6:38 pm

No one noticed a man hold an adult girl? Odd as ever! She should’ve followed him and called police.

amother

Thu, Sep 23 2021, 6:39 pm

amother [ Azalea ] wrote:

No one noticed a man hold an adult girl? Odd as ever! She should’ve followed him and called police.

She’s a little naive. And she was probably shocked out of her mind.

amother

Vermilion

Thu, Sep 23 2021, 6:39 pm

I would call school director asap to discuss

can be traumatic, and def wrong

what area was it?

nh I sent many walks in the streets of Jm, and never never hard anything like this

are the girls dress tzanua?

are there sick ppl are there? any place may ... not a good exper

amother

Poppy

Thu, Sep 23 2021, 6:39 pm

Definitely contact the school. They should call the police and check for security cameras in the area.

amother

Thu, Sep 23 2021, 6:39 pm

ra_mom wrote:

If this was near the seminary, the school should be told to be on the lookout.

I thought I should tell the school, but then- what would I say?

amother

Azalea

Thu, Sep 23 2021, 6:40 pm

amother [ OP ] wrote:

She’s a little naive. And she was probably shocked out of her mind.

It should still be reported. Perhaps there are cameras over there.

amother

DarkPurple

Thu, Sep 23 2021, 6:41 pm

This probably has nothing to do with girls and men but more like a sick individual. it’s frightening but there are sick people all over and there isn’t much to do...

amother

Thu, Sep 23 2021, 6:42 pm

amother [ Vermilion ] wrote:

I don’t know what area. I have to ask.
She’s in a BY Seminary and wears uniform- but there are many people who don’t dress tzniusly, and I’m sure there would be a huge outcry if this was happening all over the place.

amother

Mustard

Thu, Sep 23 2021, 6:43 pm

What does naive mean? That you haven’t told her about stranger danger and safe touch since she was 2?

amother

Thu, Sep 23 2021, 6:45 pm

amother [ Mustard ] wrote:

What does naive mean? That you haven’t told her about stranger danger and safe touch since she was 2?

How do you assume that? Of course we’ve talked about safe touch. But I’ve never warned her about wackos who won’t share the sidewalk, mostly because I didn’t know it was a thing.

SixOfWands

Thu, Sep 23 2021, 6:45 pm

amother [ Vermilion ] wrote:

I don't care if she was in a g-string and pasties (not that she was, of course), no one has the right to put his hands on her.

OP, how is she doing? This was an assault, and for a young frum girl in particular, unaccustomed to being touched, pretty much a z3xual assault. OF COURSE call the school. Not that they can do anything, but she's going to need some extra attention and TLC, and they should be aware.

amother

Thu, Sep 23 2021, 6:46 pm

amother [ Vermilion ] wrote:

I’ve been in Jerusalem many times. And I’ve never come across this situation.

amother

Moonstone

Thu, Sep 23 2021, 6:46 pm

amother [ OP ] wrote:

She wears a uniform on chol hamoed? Sounds odd

amother

Impatiens

Thu, Sep 23 2021, 6:48 pm

I'm having trouble picturing the scene.

You see a child of two years old, you can pick him up and put him somewhere else. How does a man " pick up" an 18 year old girl and deposit her a few feet over? Did he sweep her up in his arms? Wrap his arms around her and lift her? How does that even work?

amother

Thu, Sep 23 2021, 6:49 pm

amother [ Moonstone ] wrote:

She wears a uniform on chol hamoed? Sounds odd

Fair enough. Probably not. But she was dressed tzniusly. And yes she should have yelled, and we will talk about that. But really, asking how she was dressed somehow places the blame on her, and it shouldn’t be.

amother

Kiwi

Thu, Sep 23 2021, 6:49 pm

It is not a thing
Just a wacko or perv who used it as an excuse
Please do let her sem know
They can address it with her and the other girls too
Forewarned is forearmed
Sorry this happened to her and glad she told you

tigerwife

Thu, Sep 23 2021, 6:50 pm

amother [ OP ] wrote:

I thought I should tell the school, but then- what would I say?

Exactly what you posted.
Honestly, the story sounds pretty crazy. Your daughter is probably too shocked to realize how disturbing that behavior is but later she might be very disturbed. The school should have someone who can talk her through it.