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amother
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Wed, Oct 06 2021, 11:42 pm
I was nidda and was overall a nice experience. Being that I'm Chassidish and went with the beshow system, it was alot more special the first time together when we actually felt like we knew each other and bonded for a few days.
How was it for you?
I know some kallahs are devastated if it happens to them.
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amother
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Wed, Oct 06 2021, 11:44 pm
no bh!! I took BC and aygestin bc I was scared of a chupas nidda
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amother
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Wed, Oct 06 2021, 11:45 pm
amother [ OP ] wrote: | I was nidda and was overall a nice experience. Being that I'm Chassidish and went with the beshow system, it was alot more special the first time together when we actually felt like we knew each other and bonded for a few days.
How was it for you?
I know some kallahs are devastated if it happens to them. |
I think they are more afraid of everyone knowing.
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amother
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Wed, Oct 06 2021, 11:46 pm
amother [ Bone ] wrote: | no bh!! I took BC and aygestin bc I was scared of a chupas nidda |
I also did, but apparently it failed.
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amother
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Wed, Oct 06 2021, 11:47 pm
What did you do by chuppa and mitzvah tantz?
I don't think I'd be able to handle being nidda and not being able to touch the first night. Even if it's awkward and we barely know each other's. We at least got to touch before being nidda for afew weeks.
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iammom
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Wed, Oct 06 2021, 11:47 pm
How did you work around the usual chassidish minhag of holding hands after the chuppah? Isn’t that just announcing to everyone you had a chuppas niddah?
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amother
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Wed, Oct 06 2021, 11:49 pm
SafeAtLast wrote: | I think they are more afraid of everyone knowing. |
Makes sense. I remember exactly who came nosying in the hallway when we got ready to come in for dancing. We obviously weren't holding hands.
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amother
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Wed, Oct 06 2021, 11:51 pm
amother [ Hotpink ] wrote: | What did you do by chuppa and mitzvah tantz?
I don't think I'd be able to handle being nidda and not being able to touch the first night. Even if it's awkward and we barely know each other's. We at least got to touch before being nidda for afew weeks. |
Mitzvah tantz ended without us dancing together. I would've loved to experience that!
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honeymoon
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Wed, Oct 06 2021, 11:52 pm
I wasn't but a friend was. It isn't pleasant for the couple to have all the guests noticing and discussing it. And the whole yichud thing afterwards is more than a minor inconvenience.
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amother
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Wed, Oct 06 2021, 11:53 pm
amother [ Hotpink ] wrote: | What did you do by chuppa and mitzvah tantz?
I don't think I'd be able to handle being nidda and not being able to touch the first night. Even if it's awkward and we barely know each other's. We at least got to touch before being nidda for afew weeks. |
The first mikvah night at end of sheva brachos was so awesome, we would never have had that the first night.
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amother
Lightgray
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Wed, Oct 06 2021, 11:53 pm
Wasn't Niddah, but in Skver you don't hold hands after the chuppah and don't dance mitzvah tantz holding on, so not missing out much over there.
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amother
Lightgray
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Wed, Oct 06 2021, 11:54 pm
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What did you do about yichud the first week?
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amother
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Wed, Oct 06 2021, 11:55 pm
I did miss out on pictures tho! Photographer was trying to position us in a way that didn't look too awkward, like dh standing behind or some from the mirror, but neh..
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amother
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Wed, Oct 06 2021, 11:57 pm
SafeAtLast wrote: | OP
What did you do about yichud the first week? |
Had a little girl sleep by us on a cot in the dining room
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amother
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Wed, Oct 06 2021, 11:59 pm
honeymoon wrote: | I wasn't but a friend was. It isn't pleasant for the couple to have all the guests noticing and discussing it. And the whole yichud thing afterwards is more than a minor inconvenience. |
I was cool about it. My mother was thinking to move up the date but I wasn't interested in making a matsev..
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amother
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Thu, Oct 07 2021, 12:15 am
I was and it was beyond our control--we calculated the dates and it should've been fine, but Hashem had other plans--one cycle came early, the next came late and yea it was disappointing, but I think Hashem knew that I needed more time to get to know and live with a male first before being intimate the first time (classic shidduch dating). Our accommodations were to sleep at someone's house with kids--someone who knew and would be discreet--with the door unlocked. My husband wasn't all into the "touchy" intimate pictures anyway so they likely wouldn't have happened even if I wasn't a niddah. In all honesty most of our intimate moments weren't great for the first few months, so not sure it would've made a difference but things got better as we learned more.
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amother
Seashell
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Thu, Oct 07 2021, 12:27 am
No. Bh.
I would of been devastated.
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flowerpower
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Thu, Oct 07 2021, 12:32 am
amother [ OP ] wrote: | I was nidda and was overall a nice experience. Being that I'm Chassidish and went with the beshow system, it was alot more special the first time together when we actually felt like we knew each other and bonded for a few days.
How was it for you?
I know some kallahs are devastated if it happens to them. |
Love your attitude!!!
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amother
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Thu, Oct 07 2021, 12:35 am
I also had a Chuppas Niddah. I might have been happier without it, but it wasn't too bad. Definitely has some advantages.
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amother
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Thu, Oct 07 2021, 1:09 am
It was devastating. Of course, life goes on and you move on. But, at the time, it was devastating, embarrassing and very uncomfortable
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