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amother
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Sat, Oct 23 2021, 8:10 pm
Picked up her shirt to listen to her breathing.
Was that something typical for him to do?
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singleagain
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Sat, Oct 23 2021, 8:11 pm
Yes it's typical for a doctor to do. If you DD is uncomfortable change her doctor
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Sat, Oct 23 2021, 8:11 pm
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amother
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Sat, Oct 23 2021, 8:13 pm
I found most are sensitive and will lift it slightly enough to stick it under and they usually don’t look at the exposed part. If she’s uncomfortable it might be better to find her a female doctor or a male that is more sensitive.
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amother
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Sat, Oct 23 2021, 8:15 pm
He lifted her whole shirt up to her neck, couldn't he have done it without seeing her in her bra?
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amother
Anemone
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Sat, Oct 23 2021, 8:19 pm
Did he lift it in front or back?
Honestly, at this age, I change them to a female ped. Sometimes we get a male for sick visits, but we like a female primary. It's useful for many things, including this.
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amother
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Sat, Oct 23 2021, 8:25 pm
amother [ Anemone ] wrote: | Did he lift it in front or back?
Honestly, at this age, I change them to a female ped. Sometimes we get a male for sick visits, but we like a female primary. It's useful for many things, including this. |
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I agree about switching to female now...
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SYA
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Sat, Oct 23 2021, 8:26 pm
If not wearing a heavy shirt the doctor can try to listen through the shirt. He can also just put the stethoscope under the shirt and let the shirt hang over it. There really is no reason to have to lift it all the way to her shoulders.
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SYA
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Sat, Oct 23 2021, 8:30 pm
Before a doctor checks a child for any part that is normally covered (whether male or female) they must always notify the child before. For an older child they must first make sure the child agrees.
When teaching children about body safety we always say that when medically necessary a doctor can check provided they ask you first and a parent is in the room at the time as well.
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amother
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Sat, Oct 23 2021, 8:34 pm
SYA wrote: | If not wearing a heavy shirt the doctor can try to listen through the shirt. He can also just put the stethoscope under the shirt and let the shirt hang over it. There really is no reason to have to lift it all the way to her shoulders. |
The doctors I have been to do this even for young children. They also ask the patient first if they can listen or take a look, and also ask the patient to lift up their own shirt. So eg with my kids, each will lift up as far as they are comfortable even if it's only half an inch
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amother
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Sat, Oct 23 2021, 8:38 pm
I don't know why he had to lift her whole shirt.
Will say, when I was a teenager I asked to switch to a female pediatrician. That lady seriously traumatized me with her very super thorough breast exam, I think she even had me put on a paper gown iirc. She was a frum mother in the community, and even after 20+ years, I can't make sense of it. Every once in a while I google her name to see if there are any zexual abuse complaints associated with her but so far there aren't. But I don't think she was doing a breast cancer screening at age 15.
After that I went back to my original male pediatrician who was always careful not to be intrusive.
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amother
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Sat, Oct 23 2021, 8:41 pm
He should definitely inform or ask her that he will be listening to her heart under her shirt. And he should try to do it as tzniusdikly as possible, not to pull her shirt up of he can lift a little and slide the stethoscope underneath.
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Dahlia
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Sat, Oct 23 2021, 8:51 pm
Female pediatrician by age 10.
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amother
Daffodil
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Sat, Oct 23 2021, 8:54 pm
They should always ask and most do not lift it up fully just enough to stick their hand underneath.
On the other hand as a kid I went to a pediatric team with several doctors and I had a female for a well visit at age 12 and I was so humiliated when she had me lay on my back, bring my knees up toward my chest after which she pulled down my underwear and then spread my legs way open and had a look . I didn’t realize that I could say no. In later years I just had my mom request the male doctors and they never did they exam. Is this standard part of well visits?
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BrisketBoss
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Sat, Oct 23 2021, 9:11 pm
amother [ Daffodil ] wrote: | They should always ask and most do not lift it up fully just enough to stick their hand underneath.
On the other hand as a kid I went to a pediatric team with several doctors and I had a female for a well visit at age 12 and I was so humiliated when she had me lay on my back, bring my knees up toward my chest after which she pulled down my underwear and then spread my legs way open and had a look . I didn’t realize that I could say no. In later years I just had my mom request the male doctors and they never did they exam. Is this standard part of well visits? |
My ped didn't make me get in any weird position. First she warned me, then she pulled the top of my underwear forward and took a brief look.
I still don't know what information they glean from that. I guess just "Is anything obviously abnormal."
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Sat, Oct 23 2021, 9:17 pm
I switched my daughters to a female pediatrician who proceeded to traumatize them both with a super thorough look between their legs.
I then switched back to my regular male ped who is so caring and sensitive and asks permission before doing anything remotely intrusive.
Personality matters more than gender. And I’m the type to only see a female OB.
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amother
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Sat, Oct 23 2021, 9:20 pm
I think some female pediatricians take advantage (though I don't know what they gain from intrusive examinations) of the girls because they are female and figure everyone will be fine with it.
Maybe let whichever doctor you are using before hand that your daughter is very private.
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amother
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Sat, Oct 23 2021, 9:25 pm
You can also step in and pre-empt the dr. I did this at dd 13's checkup, asking the dr what she was going to do and where/how thoroughly she was going to look/touch when she told dd to lie down.
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amother
Dahlia
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Sat, Oct 23 2021, 9:38 pm
amother [ Daffodil ] wrote: | They should always ask and most do not lift it up fully just enough to stick their hand underneath.
On the other hand as a kid I went to a pediatric team with several doctors and I had a female for a well visit at age 12 and I was so humiliated when she had me lay on my back, bring my knees up toward my chest after which she pulled down my underwear and then spread my legs way open and had a look . I didn’t realize that I could say no. In later years I just had my mom request the male doctors and they never did they exam. Is this standard part of well visits? |
My doctor always checks between dds legs briefly it seems to be a standard part of the examination.
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amother
Turquoise
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Sat, Oct 23 2021, 9:41 pm
I had the same with female doctors being rough, cold and insensitive. I personally prefer males for that reason. I find male doctors that are sensitive and have an excellent beside manner.
And I do not think it's standard for a doctor to check private parts past diaper wearing age. I never had that and neither do my children. Unless we were there for an issue pertaining to it.
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