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mha3484
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 Fri, Nov 26 2021, 11:33 am
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Tuition is a huge expense. I expect a certain amount of days of school for what I pay. If my kids have off all Jewish holidays, Chanukah break. Midwinter, half days on a fast, it’s excessive to give off legal holidays. I think learning in school is important. I guess I am the only one.
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nylon
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Fri, Nov 26 2021, 12:01 pm
Just because school is not in session, doesn't mean a child is not learning Torah. We did things at home. School is 180 days a year; Torah is 365. And a child also learns about the world, that his or her teachers get to celebrate their holidays, and since we live in America, we all have to accommodate each other.
And yes, I do know schools, Orthodox schools, who close the last week of December. They don't all give a Chanukah break either.
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amother
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Fri, Nov 26 2021, 12:05 pm
Thanks for everyone's responses.
To the one who said I have a "hard core attitude", maybe you're right. My husband and I are from the "yeshivish" people in our community, and many times the attitude in our community really shocks us. They will cancel a day of learning in the Middle school because the elementary school has a Father and sons program and the rebbeim in the other school are the fathers who need to go learn with their son. So they cancel yeshiva for the middle school!
We are both originally from in town and these Off Days are very disturbing to us, even though we live here more than 20 years.
To the poster who said that the "Torah first " has to come from the home, that's true, but we expect a certain amount of consistency between the home and Torah institutions we send our kids to.
And yes, even during bein hazemanim, kollel guys will learn!! They don't have the same schedule but of course they still learn every day!
And for those who are saying what about yeshiva week, as I said , the school makes sure to send home sheets so the kids can fill out that they davened and learned every day. They don't do that on these random off days. I think that they cancel school because they know they can get away with it. Why do my kids have to be off on Veteran's day?? Who is that helping?
I think the underlying attitudes are just wrong. Torah should be a priority, and it's not. It's not just going to "school."
Sorry if I sound hard core. I'm married to a man who will not miss one day of learning and giving shiurim, and this really hurts him, and by extention, it hurts me.
I often think about the story of Rav Meir Shapiro, who said that his mother cried when the Melamed didnt come one day because it was a day of missed learning.
And I think about the stories of dedicated rabbeim who trudged to yeshiva when school was cancelled due to snow...
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amother
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Sat, Nov 27 2021, 3:48 pm
| amother [ OP ] wrote: | Thanks for everyone's responses.
To the one who said I have a "hard core attitude", maybe you're right. My husband and I are from the "yeshivish" people in our community, and many times the attitude in our community really shocks us. They will cancel a day of learning in the Middle school because the elementary school has a Father and sons program and the rebbeim in the other school are the fathers who need to go learn with their son. So they cancel yeshiva for the middle school!
We are both originally from in town and these Off Days are very disturbing to us, even though we live here more than 20 years.
To the poster who said that the "Torah first " has to come from the home, that's true, but we expect a certain amount of consistency between the home and Torah institutions we send our kids to.
And yes, even during bein hazemanim, kollel guys will learn!! They don't have the same schedule but of course they still learn every day!
And for those who are saying what about yeshiva week, as I said , the school makes sure to send home sheets so the kids can fill out that they davened and learned every day. They don't do that on these random off days. I think that they cancel school because they know they can get away with it. Why do my kids have to be off on Veteran's day?? Who is that helping?
I think the underlying attitudes are just wrong. Torah should be a priority, and it's not. It's not just going to "school."
Sorry if I sound hard core. I'm married to a man who will not miss one day of learning and giving shiurim, and this really hurts him, and by extention, it hurts me.
I often think about the story of Rav Meir Shapiro, who said that his mother cried when the Melamed didnt come one day because it was a day of missed learning.
And I think about the stories of dedicated rabbeim who trudged to yeshiva when school was cancelled due to snow... |
I really disagree with your very premise.
Emotional health ( and when you have emotional health you can have Torah) comes from the home. It’s so healthy when kids are off and parents bond with them and use the opportunity to nurture them. This is ruchniyus. Not just sending kids to school every day. Your kids will have a stronger sense of ruchniyus with positive feelings from the home and incorporating Torah into your home life. School is there to help with the chinuch of our children but the responsibility to be mechanech their child is on the parent. Instead of being upset, utilize the day to foster connection and nurture your child. This will enhance your child’s ruchniyus long term.
And to the parents who say I pay a lot of money for tuition and so I need a lot of school so I get my money’s worth. School isn’t a babysitting service! It’s a place for you child to learn and grow. It’s ideal for children’s learning and growth to spend time at home and bond with their parents. Accept your responsibility as a parent and don’t shift it onto the school.
May you have much nachas from your kinderlach!
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