Would you dress up a 2 year old boy as a kallah?

BrisketBoss

Tue, Jan 04 2022, 11:27 am

amother [ Starflower ] wrote:

My Mil said he didn't want to be dressed up as a girl. Therefore the tears and tantrums.

Ok, I don't like that then. And I wouldn't like it if she forced him to wear any other costume.

amother

Black

Tue, Jan 04 2022, 11:35 am

amother [ Lotus ] wrote:

Yes I did just that. DS2 had adorable wavy hair. I dressed him up as a kallah with makeup and earrings too. His older brother was the chassan. It was super adorable in my opinion.

My friend has twin girls and one Purim when they were about 2 she dressed one as a chassan and the other as a kallah. The kallah loved frilly dresses and the chassan didn't like dresses, so it worked perfectly. Gorgeous photos.

#BestBubby

Tue, Jan 04 2022, 11:46 am

30+ years ago I dressed my 2.5 y.o. boy as a girl and my 1.5 year old girl as a boy.

My DH is a Talmid Chocham and had no problem with it.

But I dont think I would do it today with the sickness of Transgender.

30 years ago I never heard of transgender.

amother

Hibiscus

Tue, Jan 04 2022, 11:48 am

To me, this is disgusting.
Especially nowadays with so much toivah going around. I really think it's a problem.

BrisketBoss

Tue, Jan 04 2022, 11:51 am

I don't understand. I agree that the 'trans trenders' are a problem in society but I don't know why that means it's worse now to do this.

amother

Caramel

Tue, Jan 04 2022, 11:54 am

Dressed my 2.5 year old in his older sisters old shabbos outfit. He was comfortable and looked cute. Hi
I did have people ask me why I didn’t dress “her” up for Purim.
Child is a teenager and has no issue when looking at pictures.

amother

Blonde

Tue, Jan 04 2022, 12:01 pm

amother [ Peru ] wrote:

No plus it's assur.

No, it is not assur to dress a boy aged 2 as a girl.

amother

Mustard

Tue, Jan 04 2022, 12:01 pm

no no never.

especially not in this day in age of gender confusion. let boys be proud boys, let girls be proud girls.

amother

Blonde

Tue, Jan 04 2022, 12:05 pm

amother [ Mustard ] wrote:

no no never.

especially not in this day in age of gender confusion. let boys be proud boys, let girls be proud girls.

There is no gender confusion in my erliche world. This doesn't exist here.
I guess for more modern people this is a real problem.

behappy2

Tue, Jan 04 2022, 12:15 pm

amother [ Mustard ] wrote:

no no never.

especially not in this day in age of gender confusion. let boys be proud boys, let girls be proud girls.

I think the opposite. Normalize girls having some masculinity and boys having some femininity. That's the truth. Putting kids in such rigid boxes only exacerbates this problem. That's just my opinion.

Bnei Berak 10

Tue, Jan 04 2022, 12:17 pm

Parents ensure small kids have kosher foods like themselves.
There is formula for babies which is CY and parents buy it specifically.
So why is cross dressing for small kids OK?

amother

Blonde

Tue, Jan 04 2022, 12:27 pm

Bnei Berak 10 wrote:

Parents ensure small kids have kosher foods like themselves.
There is formula for babies which is CY and parents buy it specifically.
So why is cross dressing for small kids OK?

Why are 2 year old girls allowed to wear pants?

BrisketBoss

Tue, Jan 04 2022, 12:40 pm

Bnei Berak 10 wrote:

Parents ensure small kids have kosher foods like themselves.
There is formula for babies which is CY and parents buy it specifically.
So why is cross dressing for small kids OK?

They're below the age of chinuch, that's why they can wear anything. As I understand it, kosher is considered to go beyond chinuch, many believe it affects the soul. But we are still more lax on kosher for babies. Many of us use the same tray for milk and meat and don't enforce waiting.

Bnei Berak 10

Tue, Jan 04 2022, 1:30 pm

amother [ Blonde ] wrote:

Why are 2 year old girls allowed to wear pants?

Many small girls don't have the understanding of sitting tznius etc. It's almost impossible because of young age. So instead it could be better to have pants instead of showing a diaper under a skirt.
On purim there are plenty of costumes to chose from.

chanatron1000

Tue, Jan 04 2022, 1:39 pm

behappy2 wrote:

Most traits shouldn't really be labeled as masculine and feminine. Rigid gender roles are a central part of the "woke" attitude toward gender. "Your gender doesn't have this trait, so you must be faking it or there's something wrong with you" and "your assigned gender doesn't have this trait, so you must be the opposite gender or nonbinary" are two views based on rigid gender roles.

amother

Ruby

Tue, Jan 04 2022, 7:12 pm

I have twins kh..they were in nursery together..one week my ds was picked as the shabbos Imma. I wrote them a note and said if you need a shabbos Imma.. pick his twin sister. When you need a shabbos Abba you can pick him!

amother

Honeydew

Tue, Jan 04 2022, 7:51 pm

BrisketBoss wrote:

Some are lax on dairy for health reasons if medically necessary (never heard otherwise)
Lax on tzinius for comfort/ warmth of a baby girl.
There Is no medical or health reason to dress a baby boy in dress.

I also have no problem with a girl bing a fire women or police women bec women can be those jobs. A boy should never be a kallah - unless that is what you want for him later in life.

BrisketBoss

Tue, Jan 04 2022, 7:53 pm

amother [ Honeydew ] wrote:

Are you against animal costumes and superhero costumes and character costumes?