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amother
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 Thu, Jan 27 2022, 9:32 am
My children usually have ice cream every day after school. I am not asking if that is good for them.
Yesterday, my 9 year old was taking ice cream. He wasn't happy with the amount I let him have, even though it was quite generous. So he took his bowl of ice cream and dumped the whole thing in the garbage. Of course, he had no ice cream yesterday.
What would you do? Let him have ice cream today?
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Dandelion21
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Thu, Jan 27 2022, 9:33 am
Remind him what he did yesterday
Ask him if he will do it again
Tell him you will not give him ice cream the rest of the week if he repeats his actions
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amother
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Thu, Jan 27 2022, 9:39 am
| Dandelion21 wrote: | Remind him what he did yesterday
Ask him if he will do it again
Tell him you will not give him ice cream the rest of the week if he repeats his actions |
This
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momof2+?
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Thu, Jan 27 2022, 9:39 am
I don’t see why not. Unless you told him he can’t have today.
I would have a conversation with him before serving him. Something along the lines of “Yesterday’s scenario was ba’al tashchis, and a shame because he ended up with no ice cream at all. What is the plan for today?”
If he’s grumpy and says “you need to give me more or I’ll do it again” or something like that, then I would tell him that I’m not going to give him. His choice.
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amother
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Thu, Jan 27 2022, 9:40 am
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Yes to the above. It’s not worth creating a new fight. Just give a warning about yesterday’s behavior and you can always punish tomorrow if she does it again.
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amother
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Thu, Jan 27 2022, 9:42 am
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Agree with all above. Definitely don't carry over punishment. Just a reminder that wasting food is baal tashchis and if it happens again, you won't be able to give ice cream.
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SixOfWands
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Thu, Jan 27 2022, 9:43 am
Yes. He suffered the natural consequences of yesterday's actions, and presumably learned from it.
I wouldn't even mention it.
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ra_mom
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Thu, Jan 27 2022, 9:45 am
| SixOfWands wrote: | Yes. He suffered the natural consequences of yesterday's actions, and presumably learned from it.
I wouldn't even mention it. |
This. Don't make it into a power struggle.
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Zehava
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Thu, Jan 27 2022, 10:31 am
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Yeah I wouldn’t bring it up. I’m sure he remembers it.
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