Understandable.
Can you say you're looking for a place for your son and you want to know if there's space for him?
I just did. He said there is no space. Not sure why they couldn't have told me this when I first applied, unless it means "only space if we think your son is special enough." It seems to be a minhag to leave parents in limbo as long as possible.
Hopefully they'll refund the $180 soon so I can use it to apply somewhere else, although I'm still not clear on where yet.
I just did. He said there is no space. Not sure why they couldn't have told me this when I first applied, unless it means "only space if we think your son is special enough." It seems to be a minhag to leave parents in limbo as long as possible.
Hopefully they'll refund the $180 soon so I can use it to apply somewhere else, although I'm still not clear on where yet.
At this point, what you would have done 6 months ago is not going to work. Just applying online is not cutting it. Most mesivtas are full, so even if there was that perfect place out there that would accept him, it probably doesn't have space anymore.
Prioritize what you want.
And what your son wants.
See if you can reconcile and then make the phone calls!
You will have to compromise on something...
Either chassidishkeit, academics, location or personal attention.
There is a place out there that wants your son! You just have to find it!
Hatzlacha, and may you see the revealed good in this journey.
if you are willing to have him board by a family instead of a dorm, you can consider the montreal mesivta. There are 2, one more mainstream and one for kids with issues.
they both give lots of individual attention, and have great hanhala.
My son (who is high functioning ASD) did really well in Antwerp. It is a chassidish place, most bochurim are shluchims kids from Europe and UK. He went only speaking english, came out speaking hebrew as well.
I don't know if they are full but they may have less pressure on places since generally they mostly cater to Europeans.
Reading your first post, a lot of what you say about your son could apply to mine. he is socially awkward, loves to learn, kind, well behaved. BH we live in Europe where places are not over full so we have not had issues with him being rejected because he is socially awkward...but this year he is in an American Yeshiva which also had no problem accepting him.
