Chuppah only | Imamother

amother

Thu, May 19 2022, 8:04 pm

Would someone invite people from a different state for the chuppah only?

amother

Magenta

Thu, May 19 2022, 8:06 pm

I was invited to only a chuppah out of state and I took it as don't bother coming. Obviously I wasn't going to travel all the way to spend 20 minutes there...

ChutzPAh

Thu, May 19 2022, 8:08 pm

Out of town guests should always be invited for the whole wedding.

amother

Ghostwhite

Thu, May 19 2022, 8:35 pm

I never understood the idea of half invitations, it's always insulting. I think better just not invite at all, right?

amother

Mulberry

Thu, May 19 2022, 8:36 pm

No. Guests that are not local and need to travel, should be invited for meal or kabalos panim/shmorg.

amother

Mulberry

Thu, May 19 2022, 8:36 pm

amother [ Ghostwhite ] wrote:

I never understood the idea of half invitations, it's always insulting. I think better just not invite at all, right?

I find it insulting and I usually don't go.

amother

Anemone

Thu, May 19 2022, 8:47 pm

don't invite them if they're traveling in from out of town if you don't want them for the whole wedding. Most people wouldn't come.

zaq

Thu, May 19 2022, 8:47 pm

amother [ OP ] wrote:

Would someone invite people from a different state for the chuppah only?

Not unless they're idiots. If you were sent only the invitation and no response card, assuming your circles use them, then the invitation is nothing more than a wedding announcement. Send them a mazal tov card and call it a day, or send them a card and a gift and call it a day.

Jello

Thu, May 19 2022, 9:06 pm

For my simchos, we did not send ANY chuppa-only invitations. Everyone on our guest list received an invitation with a response card for dinner.
I think it's really the nicest way to do it.

chocolate moose

Fri, May 20 2022, 4:16 pm

there must be some explanation. they want to include you but can't afford it or maybe covid restrictions?

mfb

Fri, May 20 2022, 4:32 pm

Are you sure they sent out response cards?
I’ve seen a lot of people that don’t bother with them anymore.
They just guesstimate how many people they will have

lamplighter

Fri, May 20 2022, 6:36 pm

We didn't invite anyone for just the chuppah but there was a choice on the response card if they were coming for dinner or dessert and dancing. This way the invitee can choose and we got more accurate numbers.
Very common in my circles.