What are your family rules

amother

Tue, Jun 14 2022, 7:00 pm

Curious what rules other mothers have. I probably have too few rules.

1. No going in the street (under a certain age)

2. Helmets when riding bikes

3. Homework before friends come over

4. No snack instead of meals

5. Certain toys and crafts are high up and need permission

6. Come home straight from school (unless you clear it with me)

7. If you want my help falling asleep then you need to go to bed at the time specified

8. We don't keep nosh in the house during the week. No candy or cake during the week unless you get it from school

9. You need to buckle up properly in the car

I may be forgetting but I think that is it

amother

Freesia

Tue, Jun 14 2022, 7:12 pm

No going into master bedroom without permission.
If the door to the room you want to enter is closed, knock before going in. (This isn't a house rule per se, just good manners.)
No screen time besides for special occasions like chol hamoed, chanukah, rosh chodesh.
Electronics only on Fridays and Sundays.

hodeez

Tue, Jun 14 2022, 7:35 pm

No friends upstairs.
No jumping on the couch.
No going to the backyard without telling me.
No videos during the week.
No sitting on abas chair.
No making fun of my son's stutter.
No "bad" words.
If there is a problem, try to solve it yourself first. If you can't, don't tantrum or get frustrated, find someone who can help you.

amother

Maize

Tue, Jun 14 2022, 7:37 pm

At his point my youngest is 11 so wearing helmets, seatbelts, not taking certain nosh in the week, are just a way of life B"H

There are a few rules
No shoes on the couch (this really helps - our couch is nearly 10 years old and looks amazing)

amother

Steelblue

Tue, Jun 14 2022, 7:40 pm

If you don’t like it, you don’t have to eat it.

The answer will often be yes if it will not cause machlokes.

You need to daven first.

amother

Dahlia

Tue, Jun 14 2022, 7:54 pm

Cross at the light (that means not going across to neighbors - need to trek all the way to the corner and then back that way to the friends on the other side).

Helmets and wrist guards.

Food in the kitchen only (and dining room on shabbos).

No kids in Mommy's bed (I'm allergic to everything and if they join I start to itch - Daddy's bed ends up being crowded lol.)

I'll tuck you in only if it's not too late, because Mommy turns into a pumpkin at night (Ma, did you turn into a pumpkin yet?).

Videos just on Friday and Sunday.

Friday - chores and lunch before videos.

Teens - off phone and devices off by x time on school nights and y time other nights.

sushilover

Tue, Jun 14 2022, 8:04 pm

I also turn into a pumpkin after their bedtime. No extra tucks, bedtime stories, or a drinks once I'm a pumpkin.

First you listen, then you ask why.

Above age ten: I won't nag you in the morning, but if you miss your bus and I have to be your taxi, you pay the taxi (me).

I only give and I only accept respectful communication.

No salamanders on the kitchen table. (Don't ask)

amother

Catmint

Tue, Jun 14 2022, 8:15 pm

No copying siblings (aka mimicking, repeating, etc)

No rollerblades in the house

No throwing shoes

No pouring water on anyone's bed

Laundry in the hamper or it doesn't get washed

Snack bags are for school

No touching my phone without permission

Food in the kitchen

Bathroom is a one person activity

amother

DarkPurple

Tue, Jun 14 2022, 8:15 pm

Interesting to try and think what rules we have.. because I never wrote it out as a list.. just different thing that evolved over time.

*If you want to go somewhere after school-need to ask first
*no jumping on couch
*diff rules for crossing streets-depending on age
*certain nosh is off-limits during week
*no bad language
*no slapping/ hurting each other
*no snack within 20 minutes before dinner
*no food upstairs
*no touching parents' cell phones unless I spec told u that u can use it

I think those are the main ones.

amother

Fuchsia

Tue, Jun 14 2022, 8:21 pm

Besides for basic manners and safety rules, I recently had to add the following:

- don’t try to pet the wild geese
- don’t step in the goose droppings…on purpose
- no wild goose feathers in the house
- you have to wear shoes outside…at least socks…At least while biking and scootering…At least don’t cry to me when your toes get scratched or covered in goose poop
- don’t pick the neighbors flowers
- don’t eat the neighbors flowers
- don’t eat any plants!
- don’t eat mud!
- don’t put mud in your hair!

Aren’t 4 year olds fun Very Happy

amother

Yarrow

Tue, Jun 14 2022, 8:21 pm

My oldest is 6 so we don't have too many but:

Wash hands when you enter house

Videos only on Friday/ motzash (and special occasions)

Bathroom words only in the bathroom

We also have mantras that are never enforced yet surprisingly very effective like:

If there's any fighting we will send all your toys back to China in a HUGE BOX they will VANISH and you will have NO TOYS.

amother

Sage

Tue, Jun 14 2022, 8:45 pm

amother [ OP ] wrote:

we have all these rules but they are not RULES. they are just the facts of our household. my kids just do or don't do them because that's how they are trained. (aside from the falling asleep thing. that depends)

amother

Rainbow

Tue, Jun 14 2022, 8:50 pm

No food upstairs (in the bedrooms)

No locking any door if mommy or tatty are not in the room with you (ages 7 and under)

amother

Hosta

Tue, Jun 14 2022, 8:55 pm

No snack before school (and yet they keep asking)
First stop when coming home is the bathroom for everyone
No scootering on the street
No food out of the kitchen (or front porch)
Friends only in the basement

Can't think of anything else off the top of my head. Preschool-age kids.

amother

Linen

Tue, Jun 14 2022, 9:17 pm

no electronics when friends are over (like gameboy or tablet)

no food out of kitchen (except dining room shabbos)

close the door when you leave or enter house !!! (took a full year for everyone to get it!)

Do rules in my head that were never enforced count? if yes: hang up coat and briefcase, take off you plate from the table when you're done eating, take out your neigel vasser, make bed,

hodeez

Tue, Jun 14 2022, 9:34 pm

amother [ Snowdrop ] wrote:

Wow, I never thought of myself as a chilled mother, but we have almost none of these rules TMI

So happy you said that, because people tell me I'm a chilled mom and I have no idea what that means