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amother

Thu, Aug 04 2022, 9:01 pm

Were moving from boro park and after applying to many many girl schools in lkwd , and having ppl call for us and the vaad ... we finally got a yes from a school that's not out type parent body wise. We applied a little later on after being rejected from many schools and seeing the situation . We are chassidish lite (heimish) and the school is very litvish. I don't think I have a choice at this point and my dh says we must send there he's done with the schools. Will my daughter feel different then her peers if we send there ? Or will they be nice and accepting ? Or is this not a big deal ? I don't know what to do. My dh refuses to push for the other schools since we got a yes now. They're giving us a week to reply if we're sending. If I say no and we don't get in anywhere then I'll be stuck . What do I do ?

amother

Gardenia

Thu, Aug 04 2022, 9:11 pm

How old is she?

justforfun87

Thu, Aug 04 2022, 9:11 pm

Are you new to Imamother? I don't even live in Lakewood and know wherever you get in you go. Good luck!

amother

Firethorn

Thu, Aug 04 2022, 9:18 pm

If you are chassidish lite chances are your daughter will fit in fine in a litvish school. There are probably even a handful of other chassidish lite families already sending there.

girlmom24

Thu, Aug 04 2022, 9:21 pm

I dealt with this last year. You can pm me.

amother

DarkGray

Thu, Aug 04 2022, 9:23 pm

Can you post which school it is? We might be able to give you a better answer

amother

Chocolate

Thu, Aug 04 2022, 9:29 pm

The Chassidish schools in Lakewood are full too?
Which school is your daughter coming from?

amother

Cinnamon

Thu, Aug 04 2022, 9:33 pm

There are many girls litvish schools here in Lakewood that have a few chassidish lite families
Even if it’s not the case in this particular school, I would imagine it would be fine. If it was a boy I would say no bec they would look and dress diff and with peyos… but chassidish lite girls look the same as litvish girls

amother

Thu, Aug 04 2022, 10:15 pm

amother [ Chocolate ] wrote:

The Chassidish schools in Lakewood are full too?
Which school is your daughter coming from?

They were either too full or just not giving us an interview. And one school we did have an interview by never got back to us even after calling and having ppl call for us they said they are still not sure and the class is really full etc. They were full of excuses.
She's coming from bybp . So the havara and the way they learn is the same. I was more concerned about the crowd and will girls make fun if they find out she's "chassidish" . I want her to fit in.

amother

Chicory

Thu, Aug 04 2022, 10:25 pm

amother [ OP ] wrote:

there is no middle of the rd school here like bybp. I spoke to somoene that sounds lije your type and sent to Bnos Brocha. Her daughter gets some comments but luckily she's confident enough to move on....

amother

Fri, Aug 05 2022, 12:03 am

I don't think my daughter would be so confident to shrug it off. It may affect her if the girls are teasing her. That's my concern . On the other hand I don't know if I have another option.

amother

Seafoam

Fri, Aug 05 2022, 12:05 am

Which school is it?

This makes a huge difference.

amother

Aconite

Fri, Aug 05 2022, 12:12 am

My daughter is one of maybe five students in a school whose fathers wear shtreimlech. We actually sent there by choice because it’s a great school. I don’t see how much being in a chassidish school matters for a girl. I can understand a boy with curly payis feeling different but the girls all look the same.

amother

DarkGray

Fri, Aug 05 2022, 12:14 am

amother [ OP ] wrote:

I don't think my daughter would be so confident to shrug it off. It may affect her if the girls are teasing her. That's my concern . On the other hand I don't know if I have another option.

Which school?

amother

Chicory

Fri, Aug 05 2022, 12:20 am

amother [ OP ] wrote:

I don't think my daughter would be so confident to shrug it off. It may affect her if the girls are teasing her. That's my concern . On the other hand I don't know if I have another option.

is she yiddish speaking? did you try Bais Hachinuch?

amother

Yarrow

Fri, Aug 05 2022, 12:24 am

You got a yes. Take it.
You did your hishtadlus and more. This is where your child needs to be now.
We don’t see the big picture until much later.
Been there, done it and learned many important lessons over the years.
Hatzlacha and nachas

amother

Lemon

Fri, Aug 05 2022, 12:30 am

We may be in the same school. My daughter is in a great school and we are one of the very few chasidish families there. We wanted this. I went to a bais yaakov and wanted the same for her. Not a specific heimish / chasidish…..She’s no different from her friends minus her fathers levush on shabbos and havara. We couldn’t be happier. If your family values line up with the parent body and you like the school then I don’t think chasidish vs not should stop you.

amother

White

Fri, Aug 05 2022, 12:36 am

My daughters are in Bais faiga and if they have some girls leaning towards Chassidish they don’t make much of it. One or two time I have heard comments about girls being called shaindy in school and sheiindee at home. Or brother has payis. But never in a derogatory way.

amother

Chicory

Fri, Aug 05 2022, 12:38 am

amother [ Lemon ] wrote:

what grade is she in ? It might make a difference once the girls grow older and start with seminary in Israel , kollel etc...

amother

Fri, Aug 05 2022, 1:00 am

Thanks everyone. I'm a little nervous but I think we will let them know we are gana send there and daven she makes good friends and it's a good fit for her. She's 4th grade.

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