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amother




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Post Sun, Aug 07 2022, 7:06 pm
My dh takes a long time to daven maariv
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amother




Pink
 

Post Sun, Aug 07 2022, 7:11 pm
I think they're starting maariv as early as possible so they don't get home too late. I plan on drinking water as soon as I can and then prepping food so he can walk in, make havdalag and we can eat (and then I have to go out to mikvah 😫)
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rache81




 
 
 
 

Post Sun, Aug 07 2022, 7:23 pm
Nope told him to hear it there and eat what they serve then he doesn't come home starving and I've eaten before serving him
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amother




Moonstone
 

Post Sun, Aug 07 2022, 7:26 pm
I hope to feel well enough to wait for Havdala. he davens early
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amother




Ballota
 

Post Sun, Aug 07 2022, 7:30 pm
I’m not waiting. He waits until 72 and I really don’t feel well and don’t think I can wait that long.
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amother




Outerspace
 

Post Sun, Aug 07 2022, 7:30 pm
Just curious, you eat without hearing havdalah or make on your own?
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amother




Glitter
 

Post Sun, Aug 07 2022, 7:31 pm
Make your own!
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amother




Emerald
 

Post Sun, Aug 07 2022, 7:31 pm
He’s davening mairiv next door
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amother




Peony
 

Post Sun, Aug 07 2022, 7:31 pm
amother [ Outerspace ] wrote:
Just curious, you eat without hearing havdalah or make on your own?


I eat without havdala.
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nnmom




 
 
 
 

Post Sun, Aug 07 2022, 7:31 pm
What Havdala do you say?
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amother




PlumPink
 

Post Sun, Aug 07 2022, 7:34 pm
amother [ Peony ] wrote:
I eat without havdala.


Say havdala on your own. No need to wait for your husband if that’s hard (and not everyone has a husband to wait for) but best make havdala before eating.
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amother




Arcticblue
 

Post Sun, Aug 07 2022, 7:35 pm
HAVDALAH on Motzei Tisha B'av Nidcha

On Motzoei Tisha B’Av Nidcheh, Sunday night this year one makes havdala and is permissible to drink the cup of wine or grape juice. No bracha on besamim or a Ner, only make a borei pri Hagafen and say the bracha of Hamavdil.

The minhag is not to eat meat or drink wine until Monday morning. However laundry and haircuts are permitted right away after the fast on Sunday night. To hear music its brought down to wait until the morning as well.
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rache81




 
 
 
 

Post Sun, Aug 07 2022, 7:35 pm
It's simple no candle or spices
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amother




Lightgreen
 

Post Sun, Aug 07 2022, 7:41 pm
amother [ Peony ] wrote:
I eat without havdala.


Why?

Eat without havdalah: problem

Make your own havdalah and eat: no problem.

If you are going to eat, why not make your own havdalah?
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amother




Lightgreen
 

Post Sun, Aug 07 2022, 7:43 pm
nnmom wrote:
What Havdala do you say?


For tonight its just hagafen and the bracha of hamavdil.
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amother




Dimgray
 

Post Sun, Aug 07 2022, 8:08 pm
rache81 wrote:
Nope told him to hear it there and eat what they serve then he doesn't come home starving and I've eaten before serving him


I can’t like this post enough.
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amother




Slateblue
 

Post Sun, Aug 07 2022, 8:11 pm
Can you drink water before havdallah just like any regular motzai shabbos?
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seeker




 
 
 
 

Post Sun, Aug 07 2022, 8:16 pm
amother [ Slateblue ] wrote:
Can you drink water before havdallah just like any regular motzai shabbos?

Yes.

Trying to decide if it's acceptable to use coffee if I have grape juice available and just like coffee better... I'm thinking no
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amother




Turquoise
 

Post Sun, Aug 07 2022, 8:20 pm
seeker wrote:
Yes.

Trying to decide if it's acceptable to use coffee if I have grape juice available and just like coffee better... I'm thinking no
some people say you should make it on orange or apple juice, coffee, or tea but not wine/grape juice.
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seeker




 
 
 
 

Post Sun, Aug 07 2022, 8:27 pm
amother [ Turquoise ] wrote:
some people say you should make it on orange or apple juice, coffee, or tea but not wine/grape juice.

I follow Guidelines by Rabbi Barclay and Jaeger and they are pretty clear on grape juice being preferred after the fast. For people who need to eat during the day there was a different set of recommendations though.
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