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Tue, Sep 20 2022, 5:53 pm
amother Black wrote: | Can you serve something at every meal that they like even if it’s not a complete supper? Bread rice?
Look up Division of Responsibility |
Agreed. Also reasonable to add a bedtime snack.
Don't bribe them to taste. Just present food and leave it up to them. No pressure whatsoever.
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Tue, Sep 20 2022, 5:54 pm
I’d vote never.
I have two picky eaters (7 and 5). They know that if they don’t like dinner they can help themselves. Cereal and milk, frozen pizza, sandwich etc. Both try new things occasionally, but there isn’t the pressure. Pressure always backfires.
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Tue, Sep 20 2022, 5:58 pm
amother OP wrote: | Ok so I knew I’d get the advice to let them have a healthy food. Problem is they don’t like rice cake, or yogurt, or cereal and milk, or fruit or vegetables |
That's ok. The 'safe food' you include in your one dinner for the whole family does not have to be 'healthy.' Really.
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Tue, Sep 20 2022, 6:00 pm
amother OP wrote: | Ok so I knew I’d get the advice to let them have a healthy food. Problem is they don’t like rice cake, or yogurt, or cereal and milk, or fruit or vegetables |
so maybe give something somewhat healthy like grill cheese, bread, string cheese, or if you really can't then maybe at least a cereal bar, grab one, fruit shake, protein shake, pancakes or even peanut chews.
do they like any form of eggs?
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BrisketBoss


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Tue, Sep 20 2022, 6:11 pm
amother OP wrote: | Bread.
I refuse to let them eat bread for breakfast, lunch, and supper. Dh’s family is this way and they still didn’t learn to eat anything else. I’m done with it.
Oh, and I need to toast the bread and smear on the butter for them. I’m not interested in doing even that, and they can’t do it in their own. |
Exposure and lack of pressure are both good things, I promise. It's a better 'method' than any other.
Why can't they prepare their own toast? They are old enough to learn the skill. Or are they lacking in abilities and maturity normally associated with those ages?
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Tue, Sep 20 2022, 6:20 pm
I get the frustration but I don’t think your method is great. forcing people to eat food they don’t like doesn’t usually end well. I would take a deep breathe and figure out how you can make this easier for yourself. I think you are putting too much onto yourself about what they do eat. you can’t make your kid eat a certain way. the eating habits of an adult are not his mom’s fault. people eat the way they do for a variety of complex reasons and you are giving yourself too much responsibility for this
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BrisketBoss


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Tue, Sep 20 2022, 6:23 pm
tichellady wrote: | I get the frustration but I don’t think your method is great. forcing people to eat food they don’t like doesn’t usually end well. I would take a deep breathe and figure out how you can make this easier for yourself. I think you are putting too much onto yourself about what they do eat. you can’t make your kid eat a certain way. the eating habits of an adult are not his mom’s fault. people eat the way they do for a variety of complex reasons and you are giving yourself too much responsibility for this |
Yes, and you can cause problems with the belief that you are responsible for a child's eating habits. That's what DOR is all about. You serve a well rounded meal. The sequel is up to the child. You can't control it and worse, they KNOW it.
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Tue, Sep 20 2022, 6:25 pm
Hungry kids are a misery. I don’t want to cook extra either, but I will let my child eat bread every day if that makes them happy.
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Tue, Sep 20 2022, 6:38 pm
You don't punish with food
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