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 Thu, Sep 22 2022, 9:46 am
My sister are teachers. Some mothers are really special and send something every rosh chodesh.
But that's the exception, maybe 1 mother every year or 2 does this. (Coffee n Muffin, chocolate, Ice cream pop)
That said, I never did it yet.
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amother
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Thu, Sep 22 2022, 11:21 am
| amother Obsidian wrote: | Wishing shana tovah on a card costs nothing, or $2 for a card.
Not neccesary or expected, but always nice.
(I'm not a teacher)
By honey jar, I didnt meant a fancy honey dish, literally a glass jar of honey. Total $4, and the morahs really appreciated the gesture. |
4 x 5 teachers adds up. Then calculate time and effort. Yup, lets continue to raise the bar because we we have so much spare time and spare cash on our hands.
Why do we do this to ourselves? Are we subconsciously doing this as bribery, so that the teacher 'likes' our kids? Of course, we need to show appreciation and thanks, but not to such a degree. The teachers are not children, who need continuous pats on their back as encouragements to do their jobs. They are adults and an occasional acknowledgement is more than sufficient. Chanukah, Purim, verbal thanks at PTA and during any communications is already more than on target.
If you want to give gifts monthly, and have the capabilities to do it - that's great. But keep it on the down low, so that it doesn't become a new 'rule'.
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amother
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Thu, Sep 22 2022, 11:36 am
| amother Wallflower wrote: | 4 x 5 teachers adds up. Then calculate time and effort. Yup, lets continue to raise the bar because we we have so much spare time and spare cash on our hands.
Why do we do this to ourselves? Are we subconsciously doing this as bribery, so that the teacher 'likes' our kids? Of course, we need to show appreciation and thanks, but not to such a degree. The teachers are not children, who need continuous pats on their back as encouragements to do their jobs. They are adults and an occasional acknowledgement is more than sufficient. Chanukah, Purim, verbal thanks at PTA and during any communications is already more than on target.
If you want to give gifts monthly, and have the capabilities to do it - that's great. But keep it on the down low, so that it doesn't become a new 'rule'. |
Definately true, I did not say at all necesary, just that it cant hurt and it is a nice thing.
100% not expected, I should ahve answered that question first before sharing an idea that could be simple if you only need to do two.
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Thu, Sep 22 2022, 4:33 pm
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As a Morah and a mom of kids in school, no it's not expected at all, yes it's appreciated. I don't like your kid more if you give something, and I don't not like your kid if you don't give. Personally, I gave something small with a nice note along the lines of what was written above. Hakaras hatov is super important to me, and a little goes a long way.
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momallhours
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Thu, Sep 22 2022, 4:40 pm
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Agree I dont look at it like hey why am I an atm I look at it like I really appreciate it that you are my child's morah and that you put in so much time effort and care into each day for a job that does not bring in the big bucks and can sometimes be very physically draining (looking at you terrible 2s;)
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