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amother




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Post Thu, Sep 29 2022, 12:37 pm
I'm at my wits end. My son has a phobia of being wet, things spilling, getting dirty and food falling on the table or floor. When his shirt gets a drop of water, he doesn't calm down until it is changed. It really affects his day to day life. Mealtimes are a big struggle. When he eats cereal with milk for breakfast, he has such a phobia of the milk dripping off the spoon that it prevents him from eating and Every spoonful is a fight. He needs to have a tissue available at all times and he is busy wiping the table every time it drips. He only eats with a lot of distraction. He won't eat fruit with peels because he is afraid he'll have a piece stuck between his teeth. Won't eat Bamba because his hands will be dirty etc... You get the gist. When he washes his hands, he will dry them for a long time to make sure they are completely dry.
He is missing out on so much!

The thing is, he does like touching sand, creams, and finger paints.
I don't know how to handle it. He probably needs therapy, but I don't know what kind.
I don't know whether I should go along with his meshugaassen and enable him or to be firm with him.
I don't know how to act when he has a meltdown.
All advice appreciated!
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ra_mom




 
 
 
 

Post Thu, Sep 29 2022, 12:45 pm
Have him evaluated by an occupational therapist. He may have sensory integration issues. The earlier these issues are dealt with, the more likely he can overcome them.
If the OT thinks the child needs further testing for ASD, follow through (and continue OT therapy as well).
Hatzlacha Rabba!
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naomi2




 
 
 
 

Post Thu, Sep 29 2022, 2:10 pm
Is this a sensory issue or more like ocd?
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amother




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Post Thu, Sep 29 2022, 2:54 pm
It sounds a lot like ocd. Get him evaluated for pandas.
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