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AlwaysGrateful
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 Thu, Oct 27 2022, 3:21 pm
How old and what gender? What are you seeing?
Just know people with ADHD don't necessarily have a hard time focusing on EVERTHING. They have a hard time focusing on things that are not engaging to them. If something engages them, they can often experience hyperfocus, which means that they pay attention to that thing and ignore everything else. They really have a deficit in regulating their attention, not in paying attention necessarily.
ADHD can also look similar to other issues, like receptive language disorders and anxiety. So don't self-diagnose. If a child isn't following directions, it's possible that the directions weren't fully received. If a child seems to procrastinate about something, it could be that s/he's feeling some sort of anxiety about doing that thing, or that it's some sort of sensory issue. And yes, there's always the possibility that the child doesn't have any of these issues and might just be helped by you using different parenting techniques than you've used until now (it's hard to even say if this is in the ballpark without any more info). The best thing is to ask for an evaluation, and do your research to make sure that the evaluator knows what they're doing...
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mha3484
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Thu, Oct 27 2022, 3:51 pm
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You should do a neuropysch eval. Where do you live?
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BrisketBoss
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Thu, Oct 27 2022, 4:05 pm
| amother Saddlebrown wrote: | Hope I'm not hijacking, but I have a similar question
My DS is having a hard time now that he's in high school. I've mentioned to his rebbe and principal the idea of having him evaluated and they're insisting this is more a "laziness" issue than ADD.
How do you make that leap in deciding? |
First of all, there's no such thing as pure laziness. If the kid isn't meeting expectations it's because SOMETHING is holding them back.
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Thu, Oct 27 2022, 4:58 pm
Ways ADHD looks different from laziness:
First is the obvious, people with ADHD often work very hard, it's just that effort doesn't always lead to results in the same way.
Examples: a kid might clean their room for an hour, but it still looks messy, because they got hyperfocused on organizing a particular drawer, took everything out of the drawer, and then forgot to put it back. A kid might sit in front of an open textbook for an hour and only finish one problem. An adult with ADHD might have taken 40 college courses and still not have a degree, because they've switched majors twice.
The effort is going in, even if results aren't coming out. Whereas with laziness it's the opposite - if any effort is made, it's made in the most efficient way, in order to do as little work as possible.
Second, people with ADHD might fail to do things that seem super easy.
Like, a lazy person isn't going to work a full shift and then forget to file their hours so they can get paid. A person with ADHD might. A lazy child won't read an entire book, write 80% of a book report, and then simply not finish it and turn it in. A kid with ADHD might.
People with ADHD struggle with easy tasks with a high reward, not just the stuff that takes hard work.
Third, people with ADHD are highly motivated in the right circumstances.
Particularly, they tend to be motivated by things that are new and different and by things that are more hands-on. Robotics lecture, no, building your own robot out of lego, yes.
If your kid is bored to tears in regular classes but super excited to visit a historic site and learn all about it, or if they start off strong with each new school year/ semester/ topic but then their grades drop over time - that's a sign of ADHD, not laziness.
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That's not a comprehensive list but those are some common things you could look for.
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