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How to plan a bar mitzva?



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amother
OP


 

Post Thu, Nov 03 2022, 7:50 pm
Anyone have a list of what needs to be done ? And what to do now versus in a month versus right before etc ?
Checklists ? How do I plan this ? What do I do first?
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amother
Stone


 

Post Thu, Nov 03 2022, 8:43 pm
It depends if the Bar Mitzva is in a year or in a couple of months.

Bar Mitzva lessons
Reserve a hall
Choose a caterer
Choose an event planner or decide what you will do on your own if you are not doing a high end event
Make a guest list
Invitations
Choose a menu
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amother
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Post Thu, Nov 03 2022, 8:46 pm
following
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amother
Anemone


 

Post Thu, Nov 03 2022, 8:48 pm
Just got an email with this link today.
https://www.drivenday.com/prod.....table
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ImmaBubby




 
 
    
 

Post Thu, Nov 03 2022, 8:54 pm
Please order tefillin ASAP. Smile
Everything else is subject to potential discussion and change except for the kid’s chiyuv to put on tefillin on his 13th birthday!
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ysydmom




 
 
    
 

Post Thu, Nov 03 2022, 9:04 pm
don't forget outfits for the family
figuring out who to give which aliyah to
who is speaking?
where to put people up
hostess gifts
guest package for Shabbos
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amother
Winterberry


 

Post Thu, Nov 03 2022, 9:23 pm
If weeknight affair
Book:
Hall/caterer
Musician/singer
Photographer
Hair/makeup
Buy shoes outfits and hairpieces for everyone
Hats and hat box if applicable
Davening jacket
Bentchers and invitations/stamps about two months before
Boys speech and other speeches

For shabbos
Kiddish/meals hall and caterer
Bar mitzvah lessons if leining
Outfits and shoes for everyone
If putting ppl up hostess gifts and guest packages


Tefillin and tefillin bag
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amother
OP


 

Post Fri, Nov 04 2022, 12:09 pm
Can't believe I forgot we need to buy him a hat !
These lists are helpful. Anything else let me know!
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amother
Pink


 

Post Tue, Dec 20 2022, 12:05 pm
bumping this up
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amother
Red


 

Post Tue, Dec 20 2022, 12:18 pm
Bumping this up
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amother
OP


 

Post Sun, Jan 15 2023, 9:38 pm
Anyone ever do a shabbos in a hotel for family? Please help ! I need lists!
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amother
Ruby


 

Post Sun, Jan 15 2023, 9:39 pm
How early do you need to order tefillin?
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amother
Winterberry


 

Post Sun, Jan 15 2023, 10:43 pm
amother Ruby wrote:
How early do you need to order tefillin?


I bought tefillin from a sofer who needed two weeks notice. Many other people order a year to in advance
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amother
Tulip


 

Post Sun, Jan 15 2023, 10:58 pm
First is order tefillin. We ordered from someone about 9 months in advance (started communication then. Got the tefillin a few days before hanacha.)

Then figure out which shabbos you're making the bar mitzvah- especially if your son is leining and needs to practice. Make sure you're doing the right shabbos. Ask your shul leining policy for bar mitzvah. Some only allow maftir haftarah. Book the shul ad your bar mitzvah

If you're making the kiddush at the shul, book the shabbos. If at a hall, book the hall.

If you're making a bo bayom In a hall or shul, book it.
If you're hosting shabbos seudos in a hall or shul, book them.

If you're using a party planner or caterer, book them.
If you're having music, book it.

Ask neighbors if they can host OOT guests for sleeping for that shabbos. Especially call early If there are other simcha in your neighborhood that week.

Start thinking about invite list. Never hurts to start it early.

All the rest can be handled later.
The rest includes

Invitations
Hat, suit, shirt, (cufflinks if the type), tie, shoes
Tefillin bag and pouch
Find out what boys post bar mitzvah wear to school. For us it was an entire new wardrobe Weekday shirts all white, dress pants (stretch), dress shoes

Clothing for other family members, if buying special for the bar mitzvah

Figuring out , if you're like me and are not using caterers and party planners, the food, table cloths, set up, clean up, etc
Arranging food
Hosts gifts (can be as simple as a candy platter or elaborate as China serving bowls or Lucite something or other)
Little bags with food and water and map and schedule for oot guests

I might be missing something. But that's about it

Oh... AND DON'T FRET! IT WILL ALL WORK OUT AND BE BEAUTIFUL!!!
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amother
Navyblue


 

Post Mon, Jan 16 2023, 1:36 am
Mazeltov, OP!

Advice I was given before DS's bar mitzvah : expect 10 things to go wrong. When something does, instead of panicking, you can tick it off knowing there are only 9 left!
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