Home
Log in / Sign Up
    Private Messages   Advanced Search   Rules   New User Guide   FAQ   Advertise   Contact Us  
Forum -> Yom Tov / Holidays -> Chanukah
Do you light the menorah?
Previous  1  2  3  4  5



Post new topic   Reply to topic View latest: 24h 48h 72h



Do you as a woman light the menorah?
Yes of course  
 16%  [ 31 ]
No not usually  
 83%  [ 152 ]
Total Votes : 183



dena613




 
 
    
 

Post Thu, Dec 22 2022, 12:18 am
Wolfsbane wrote:
I lit until I got married; now I would light if DH was going to get home late.

For those who said they have boys light but not girls, I'm curious as to the source.
I get why some families do only one menorah - נר איש וביתו.
And I get why many married women don't light - אשתו כגופו.

But why (single) boys and not (single) girls?


It’s an inyan of tznius why the girls (over bas mitzvah for sure) don’t light
Back to top

amother
Forestgreen


 

Post Thu, Dec 22 2022, 1:25 am
dena613 wrote:
It’s an inyan of tznius why the girls (over bas mitzvah for sure) don’t light


Even if that were the case, it's only for lighting outdoors. Why not light inside?
Back to top

shabbatiscoming




 
 
    
 

Post Thu, Dec 22 2022, 6:04 am
dena613 wrote:
It’s an inyan of tznius why the girls (over bas mitzvah for sure) don’t light

Please explain what could possibly be not tzanua about lighting a chanukiya.
Back to top

amother
Green


 

Post Thu, Dec 22 2022, 6:07 am
shabbatiscoming wrote:
Please explain what could possibly be not tzanua about lighting a chanukiya.


Because of
כל כבודה בת מלך פנימה
and they used to light the menorah outside.

For many reasons, this is not really relevant nowadays. For example, girls go to school Smile

But it stuck in many homes.
Back to top

zaq




 
 
    
 

Post Thu, Dec 22 2022, 9:40 am
Wolfsbane wrote:
Gender is relevant to the question, though. Poll results indicate that most of the women who responded to the poll do not generally light. I would assume that the results on Abafather would be pretty different. (Unless your point is simply grammatical, in which case I don't understand it.)

Yes, my point is entirely grammatical. OP wants to know if it's common for women to light, because as far as she knows many or most don't. Or do. Doesn't matter. My point is that you don't light " as a woman"--your being a woman is not related to your lighting. You might say " As a woman I don't wear tzitzit" "As a Jewish adult I fast on Yom Kippur"
"As a non believer I don't fast on Yom Kippur". The " as a ________" explains why the "I" is doing ________.

"As a" means "because you are a".
But OP is not asking if you light because you're a woman. She's really asking if you light despite being a woman. Therefore the "as a" does not belong.
Back to top

amother
Acacia


 

Post Thu, Dec 22 2022, 9:46 am
I was taught that a married woman and her husband light one menorah between them as they are like one person. Unmarrieds all lights.
Back to top

amother
Carnation


 

Post Thu, Dec 22 2022, 9:47 am
amother Green wrote:
Because of
כל כבודה בת מלך פנימה
and they used to light the menorah outside.

For many reasons, this is not really relevant nowadays. For example, girls go to school Smile

But it stuck in many homes.


We have one outside, but my husband lights it. However, I go out with him when I feel up to it. Uh-oh! Smile
Back to top

zaq




 
 
    
 

Post Thu, Dec 22 2022, 10:24 am
amother Green wrote:
Because of
כל כבודה בת מלך פנימה
and they used to light the menorah outside.

For many reasons, this is not really relevant nowadays. For example, girls go to school Smile

But it stuck in many homes.


I wonder if this is the real reason. I would think it was more an inyan of k'vod hatzibbur, same reason why women don't lein. People might think the men in town aren't learned enough to perform the mitzvah and the women have to do it.

G-d forbid we should be proud that we have learned women who can do these things.
Back to top

amother
Razzmatazz


 

Post Thu, Dec 22 2022, 10:34 am
I checked "Yes of course" because I light, but I don't agree with the "of course" part. We go by Rav Soloveitchik's approach that married women light their own, but I understand that many people hold otherwise.

If anyone is interested in the various sources, see here: https://torah.etzion.org.il/en.....anuka

An interesting piece I wasn't previously aware of:

Interestingly, R. Moshe Harari, in his Mikraei Kodesh- Hilkhot Chanuka (addendum 7 pg. 154), cites previously unpublished comments of R. Moshe Feinstein recalling that women in his hometown in Europe did, in fact, light neirot Chanuka, with a berakha, contrary to the impression given by the Mishna Berura. His wife, however, was not accustomed to lighting neirot Chanuka, and R. Feinstein did not impose his customs (including that of women lighting neirot Chanuka) on his wife.
Back to top
Page 5 of 5 Previous  1  2  3  4  5 Recent Topics




Post new topic   Reply to topic    Forum -> Yom Tov / Holidays -> Chanukah

Related Topics Replies Last Post
Can you recommend a good Kitchen ceiling fan with a light?
by amother
0 Wed, Mar 27 2024, 9:17 pm View last post
Crisp, light, sophisticated perfume 8 Wed, Mar 20 2024, 1:06 am View last post
ISO inspiring but light speeches on YouTube
by amother
0 Mon, Mar 04 2024, 7:52 pm View last post
Im not dysfunctional (light thread)
by amother
28 Mon, Mar 04 2024, 7:16 am View last post
What's a good light switch cover?
by amother
2 Tue, Feb 27 2024, 5:24 pm View last post