Who prepares the kids’ menorah?

amother

Phlox

Sun, Dec 25 2022, 3:43 pm

My husband preps all of them. Trying to picture him prepping his and then telling everyone to fly a kite. Why would any man not prep all since he has to do his anyway?

amother

Aquamarine

Sun, Dec 25 2022, 3:44 pm

They like to do it themselves.

amother

Raspberry

Sun, Dec 25 2022, 3:44 pm

My kids do it themselves, including the toddlers. They light with candles, not oil.

miami85

Sun, Dec 25 2022, 3:45 pm

My kids choose their own candles. Only my son that is 12 is lighting with oil

shabbatiscoming

Sun, Dec 25 2022, 3:45 pm

amother Phlox wrote:

My husband preps all of them. Trying to picture him prepping his and then telling everyone to fly a kite. Why would any man not prep all since he has to do his anyway?

Who says he has to prepare his own chanukiyah? Growing up my mother always prepared my father's as he came home from work later than when the rest of us lit. And I sometimes prepare my husband's and sometimes not.

amother

Cinnamon

Sun, Dec 25 2022, 3:46 pm

They do their own candles. They get to light oil when they can prepare it

BadTichelDay

Sun, Dec 25 2022, 3:53 pm

Everyone. That is, dh and/or I and/or the kids themselves. They are still small, so they need help on and off.

chanchy123

Sun, Dec 25 2022, 3:55 pm

Generally either myself or one of the kids, husband is hardly home while we’re preparing the candles, actually he’s not always home when we light either, but if he is home in time to light, he prefers the candles are all set up and ready to go at the zman.

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Blessing1

Sun, Dec 25 2022, 4:02 pm

DH preps his menorah. Older kids prep theirs. Younger kids that need help, get help from myself, DH, or older siblings.

pause

Sun, Dec 25 2022, 4:34 pm

They each do it themselves. If they're old enough to light, they're old enough to prepare the candles.
Sometimes DS will even prepare DH's menorah.

amother

Cerulean

Sun, Dec 25 2022, 4:37 pm

DH does them all: his, mine, and the kids.

amother

Tuberose

Sun, Dec 25 2022, 4:38 pm

pause wrote:

They each do it themselves. If they're old enough to light, they're old enough to prepare the candles.
Sometimes DS will even prepare DH's menorah.

The kids who light candles prepare theirs in the morning, almost first thing when they wake up. Smile

It's like this every year, IIRC. Smile

Oil is prepared just before candle-lighting, by whichever parent is doing the preparations that night.

amother

Apple

Sun, Dec 25 2022, 4:38 pm

Whoever has time. Whether me, dh or the kids.

Ema of 5

Sun, Dec 25 2022, 4:41 pm

My boys do theirs and my husbands- one does the wicks and one does the oil. My husband does the candles for the girls.

mha3484

Sun, Dec 25 2022, 4:41 pm

Everyone lights oil and my husband preps them all. Every year I ask if he wants to get the prefilled cups and he always says no.

pause

Sun, Dec 25 2022, 4:44 pm

amother Tuberose wrote:

The kids who light candles prepare theirs in the morning, almost first thing when they wake up. Smile

It's like this every year, IIRC. Smile

Oil is prepared just before candle-lighting, by whichever parent is doing the preparations that night.

Exactly! Even more, one of mine who lights oil actually prepared his for the next night before going to sleep after that night's wicks went out.

Bnei Berak 10

Sun, Dec 25 2022, 4:55 pm

mha3484 wrote:

Everyone lights oil and my husband preps them all. Every year I ask if he wants to get the prefilled cups and he always says no.

Why do your want or offer the prefilled cups?

amother

DarkYellow

Sun, Dec 25 2022, 5:11 pm

Who says "dh has to"prepare his own? Whoever is home and has the time does it. Usually me. Also depends on how old the kid is. Obviously we're not letting a four-year-old do his own.

amother

Phlox

Sun, Dec 25 2022, 5:25 pm

In my world men are very into this mitzvah and do it all themselves.