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Olive
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Sat, Jan 07 2023, 8:57 pm
amother Zinnia wrote: | When the trash cans weren't taken out or the front door of the building left open, and I'm told something along the lines of - just tell your husband to do this, or that, or other situations - just tell your husband to watch the kids/go to the store/pick that up. When the baby is brought to a late night event and I'm asked - why'd you bring the baby, baby takes bottles why didn't you leave the baby with your husband. Not everyone has the marriage you think they have and this may be a challenging relationship. It's like throwing salt on the wound. |
When I tell someone how much it costs to chip in for a gift, and she says “speak to my husband”.
Do you not have shalom bayis or what?
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amother
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Sat, Jan 07 2023, 8:58 pm
someone told me she was expecting and then said "I hope my news doesnt get you down, I know youve been trying awhile" it was a really weird and socially off way of saying it. she could have simply said "I want to let you know were expecting" why make me feel like a nebachy loser?
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amother
Tiffanyblue
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Sat, Jan 07 2023, 8:58 pm
amother Brickred wrote: | say "nu when are you having another baby?" I usually shut them up by saying weve been trying for 6 months and are going to an RE soon.
People are stupid |
Or "anything else you'd like to know about our zex life?"
Eeww ppl can be so hurtful and obnoxious
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amother
Mimosa
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Sat, Jan 07 2023, 8:58 pm
When I respond to someone asking if I have children, the person says, “At least you do not have to worry about yeshiva tuition like we do.”
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amother
Ghostwhite
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Sat, Jan 07 2023, 8:59 pm
Is your dd in shidduchim?
Seriously, you know her age. Your lids younger than her are married with a kid already. It should be obvious to you. If you don't have a suggestion don't say anything at all.
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amother
Ghostwhite
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Sat, Jan 07 2023, 9:00 pm
amother Tiffanyblue wrote: | Or "anything else you'd like to know about our zex life?"
Eeww ppl can be so hurtful and obnoxious |
Dh said at work people ask for instructions how to make kids, if someone makes a comment to them about not having more kids.
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amother
Tiffanyblue
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Sat, Jan 07 2023, 9:03 pm
amother Ghostwhite wrote: | Dh said at work people ask for instructions how to make kids, if someone makes a comment to them about not having more kids. |
Ooohhhh I like that!
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amother
NeonPink
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Sat, Jan 07 2023, 9:14 pm
amother Olive wrote: | When I tell someone how much it costs to chip in for a gift, and she says “speak to my husband”.
Do you not have shalom bayis or what? |
Exactly, maybe she doesn't have shalom bayis. Or maybe they're having financial issues you're not aware of and she feels put on the spot and doesn't know how to answer.
I hope you never make anyone feel bad for answering that.
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amother
Beige
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Sat, Jan 07 2023, 9:27 pm
amother Olive wrote: | When I tell someone how much it costs to chip in for a gift, and she says “speak to my husband”.
Do you not have shalom bayis or what? |
Maybe they don't? Why should she have to argue this out with him?
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amother
Peru
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Sat, Jan 07 2023, 9:30 pm
amother Zinnia wrote: | Oh you have 5 girls (or boys)? Are you trying for ______ (opposite gender)? |
as if you can put in an order for the gender you want
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amother
Beige
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Sat, Jan 07 2023, 9:31 pm
amother Zinnia wrote: | When the trash cans weren't taken out or the front door of the building left open, and I'm told something along the lines of - just tell your husband to do this, or that, or other situations - just tell your husband to watch the kids/go to the store/pick that up. When the baby is brought to a late night event and I'm asked - why'd you bring the baby, baby takes bottles why didn't you leave the baby with your husband. Not everyone has the marriage you think they have and this may be a challenging relationship. It's like throwing salt on the wound. |
This is my life. My neighbor doesn't understand why I don't spend much time schmoozing with her anymore, this is the reason.
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amother
Offwhite
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Sat, Jan 07 2023, 9:32 pm
“So what are you doing these days?”
“Enjoying Chanukah, what else?”
“No, I mean, are you still not working? What do you do all day?”
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ruby slippers
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Sat, Jan 07 2023, 9:33 pm
My aunt just passed away. She was very sick for three weeks. When I told MIL aunt had passed her response was, sorry to hear, she never stood a chance....
What?!?
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amother
Saddlebrown
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Sat, Jan 07 2023, 9:42 pm
amother Ghostwhite wrote: | Is your dd in shidduchim?
Seriously, you know her age. Your lids younger than her are married with a kid already. It should be obvious to you. If you don't have a suggestion don't say anything at all. |
This
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amother
Navyblue
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Sat, Jan 07 2023, 9:43 pm
So Tell me about all your children and also who they are married to.
Maybe there is an older single that has been skipped? Maybe there is a divorced one?
Maybe someone OTD who is not looking to marry.
Please don't ask anyone this question. It can be so hurtful to some.
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amother
Clematis
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Sat, Jan 07 2023, 10:04 pm
Chassidish
Telling me, someone who drives, that a woman who drives is putting herself before her kids, that she's messing up their chances of shidduchim. The person knows I drive but was trying to explain to me why she chose not to drive.
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amother
Pearl
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Sat, Jan 07 2023, 10:09 pm
amother Clematis wrote: | Chassidish
Telling me, someone who drives, that a woman who drives is putting herself before her kids, that she's messing up their chances of shidduchim. The person knows I drive but was trying to explain to me why she chose not to drive. |
Yes, in general it's awkward when someone speaks negatively about something that they know applies to you.
L'mashal, my SIL who knows I nurse my toddler told me about how she thinks babies should stop nursing once they can ask for it...whatever that means
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amother
Pearl
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Sat, Jan 07 2023, 10:10 pm
amother Navyblue wrote: | Saying loud in a store how many times a week your teen daughter takes a bath |
My FIL says when he goes to the frum grocery store, he gets to hear women's loud phone convos about BC.
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amother
Holly
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Sat, Jan 07 2023, 10:16 pm
amother Steel wrote: | Have you made a cheshbon hanefesh (I’m going through a lot)
Btw my rav told me I have one kabala Survive. |
I love this. I've boiled my yiddishkeit down to this
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amother
Olive
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Sat, Jan 07 2023, 10:24 pm
amother Beige wrote: | Maybe they don't? Why should she have to argue this out with him? |
Why do I have to know that?
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