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amother

Tue, Mar 07 2023, 10:24 am

My husband mentioned to me that he started dealing with a (he decided chassidish-sounding) female though his work. Whenever he sends her a document she asked for she'll reply with "much obliged" or "many thanks".

Is this normal word usage for the local girls to use?

amother

Mayflower

Tue, Mar 07 2023, 10:34 am

Many thanks is totally appropriate. What’s the judgement for exactly??

ectomorph

Tue, Mar 07 2023, 10:37 am

She probably was told to say that professionally. It's a bit formal

amother

Tue, Mar 07 2023, 10:46 am

No judgement. Just asking. I work in an office where we request documents all day. No one uses those words.

amother

Blonde

Tue, Mar 07 2023, 10:50 am

normal

Tue, Mar 07 2023, 11:01 am

amother OP wrote:

No judgement. Just asking. I work in an office where we request documents all day. No one uses those words.

Which words do you normally use?
I think many thanks is perfectly normal, much obliged is quite posh

amother

Tue, Mar 07 2023, 11:06 am

He obviously thought these words were out of the ordinary, because no one else he deals with in that office uses them. (Never mind that even a basic thank you email 10x a day is annoying.)

amother

Oleander

Tue, Mar 07 2023, 11:09 am

Sounds normal to me- Brit here

amother

Red

Tue, Mar 07 2023, 11:12 am

amother OP wrote:

He obviously thought these words were out of the ordinary, because no one else he deals with in that office uses them. (Never mind that even a basic thank you email 10x a day is annoying.)

I applaud her personality.

If your DH doesn't want her to acknowledge his emails - he should politely tell her.

SuperWify

Tue, Mar 07 2023, 11:29 am

Yes for the English.

amother

Saddlebrown

Tue, Mar 07 2023, 11:53 am

Is she british?

Whilst I am a brit, I'd never write or say much obliged unless I was being silly, but very often say and would email many thanks!

exhausted

Tue, Mar 07 2023, 11:54 am

Very normal

daffys

Tue, Mar 07 2023, 12:49 pm

Very normal for a Chassidish girl . They’re usually extra formal when dealing with men.

Kiwi13

Tue, Mar 07 2023, 1:31 pm

When I worked with a British publisher for a while, I picked up some of the lingo… “Many thanks,” “In due course,” etc.

And then it got interesting at the next place I worked. 😂

She could have picked it up anywhere. You never know. It’s formal and polite.

NotInNJMommy

Tue, Mar 07 2023, 1:35 pm

amother OP wrote:

He obviously thought these words were out of the ordinary, because no one else he deals with in that office uses them. (Never mind that even a basic thank you email 10x a day is annoying.)

While they are not typical closings in the emails at my employer in my location, they seem rather professional and appropriate.

Even if I got a thank you reply email, I don't find it annoying. It's normal and professional to say thanks/thank you/many thanks, etc. in a quick reply email. If I got manifestos of gratitude constantly, that would be weird and somewhat annoying.

I usually close my work emails with "Thanks" or "Thank you" if that's and appropriate closing as do most of my peers.

amother

Tue, Mar 07 2023, 1:55 pm

NotInNJMommy wrote:

Sure. I get that. That's normal. But to request 10 documents a day and respond to each email with a reply of many thanks or much obliged is just odd. I agree with him. Sorry!

amother

Banana

Tue, Mar 07 2023, 1:58 pm

I don't understand the question. It's well within the realm if appropriate no matter how many times a day you email. It's formal and professional. Definitely not "weird" or "annoying"

amother

Lightpink

Tue, Mar 07 2023, 2:42 pm

She also may have this set as her signature. I use outlook at work and have a formal signature set up, and a response signature. It could be she just has one signature for regardless where she is in the email thread.

Rubber Ducky

Tue, Mar 07 2023, 2:54 pm

The responses let your husband know that she received the emails — it's polite and responsible. The "much obliged" formal language may be because she is Chassidish.

NotInNJMommy

Tue, Mar 07 2023, 2:57 pm

amother OP wrote:

Sure. I get that. That's normal. But to request 10 documents a day and respond to each email with a reply of many thanks or much obliged is just odd. I agree with him. Sorry!

I just don't know who has that much time to get that bothered by a quick email that says thanks and indicates the item was received.

Also, why does it bother you that much? I don't have time to get annoyed for my husband over smaller matters. I have enough on my own plate.

Last edited by NotInNJMommy on Tue, Mar 07 2023, 3:04 pm; edited 1 time in total

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