How to feel better after criticism when I really need chizuk

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SuperWify

Mon, Apr 17 2023, 4:29 am

Dear op, you are very triggered. Please please get some help so you can sleep and take care of yourself. Seek professional help if you feel you need it.

A fist baby is a huge adjustment. It’s hard, I know. Harder because we expect our parents to be there but we forget they are past the the stage and many time forget what it’s like.

But don’t do it alone. There is help.

amother

Banana

Mon, Apr 17 2023, 7:01 am

Hi OP, you got a lot of helpful advice in this thread. One practical thing, if you're in Baltimore I have outlet covers to give you. They're very simple to put in, and that way you can feel like you've done a significant step in baby proofing. I might even have a child who can do it for you.

amother

Fri, Apr 21 2023, 2:47 am

amother Seafoam wrote:

It's unfortunately too true. You put it so well. People think they care so much and if they just tell you exactly what to do, everything will be great. D'oh, do you think I'm stupid? I wish people would be better at giving chizuk. I deal with my own share of this issue in my life so I know how you feel, OP. Banging head

Thank you.

amother

Fri, Apr 21 2023, 3:04 am

tichellady wrote:

agree with this. I don't think it's a criticism. you will babyproof if and when you feel like you want to. when people say things like that you can just laugh and say " yes, it's crazy how he is changing". even if you don't feel like laughing sometimes it helps. you are doing a great job! it's so hard to be a mom. people really forget how and consuming it is.

Thank you for your support.

amother

Camellia

Fri, Apr 21 2023, 3:18 am

I also hate being criticized. My mother will say things like "your fridge is filthy" which I translate to you are incompetent at housekeeping. I have a daughter who just had her first baby but she really appreciates things like "your baby is crawling that means you gotta baby proof". She know I have 0 negative intention and it's her first kid and she doesn't have anyone else giving her advice - which I rarely give.

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