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 Wed, Sep 20 2023, 10:18 pm
I don't have advice, but my kids are out of a crib as soon as they are trained. And yes. That means sometimes at a young age of newly 2.
One of the less fun stages. But it passes. And they don't come out as much as you think.
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Wed, Sep 20 2023, 10:20 pm
| amother Birch wrote: | I would make a strict rule that he goes to the BR right before going into the crib and that's it.
True, he prob will end up going in his diaper here and there, but after a few days of you being strict hopefully he will stop using this tactic. |
Oy! This advice seems so harmful. I think it might just be time to move him into a bed
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Wed, Sep 20 2023, 10:29 pm
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If he uses the toilet he's old enough for a bed.
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amother
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Thu, Sep 21 2023, 10:02 am
For all those saying I should move him to a bed, can you please explain how that would help?
So let’s say he’s in a bed. He says he needs the bathroom, leaves his room, and starts playing with a toy, or practicing his hopping skills, or anything else he can procrastinate with. Now what?
He’s a harder kid in general, so just telling him he can’t play won’t work. He also doesn’t like being watched in the bathroom, and like a good man he takes his time….
I really don’t think he needs the bathroom. This happens before he falls asleep, not in middle of the night. Plus, before he discovered this trick, he was dry throughout the night almost every night. And he doesn’t even want to go first thing in the morning!
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Thu, Sep 21 2023, 10:04 am
| amother OP wrote: | For all those saying I should move him to a bed, can you please explain how that would help?
So let’s say he’s in a bed. He says he needs the bathroom, leaves his room, and starts playing with a toy, or practicing his hopping skills, or anything else he can procrastinate with. Now what?
He’s a harder kid in general, so just telling him he can’t play won’t work. He also doesn’t like being watched in the bathroom, and like a good man he takes his time….
I really don’t think he needs the bathroom. This happens before he falls asleep, not in middle of the night. Plus, before he discovered this trick, he was dry throughout the night almost every night. And he doesn’t even want to go first thing in the morning! |
It’s not a matter of helping ( although long term it will help) It’s a matter of the right thing to do. If he is independent enough to use the bathroom that you as the parent need to give him a bed. As kids get older we need to transition them to the next stage. A bed is appropriate for a toilet trained toddler and a crib is unfair for him. It’s appropriate to transition him today. Hatzlacha!
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Thu, Sep 21 2023, 10:06 am
| amother OP wrote: | For all those saying I should move him to a bed, can you please explain how that would help?
So let’s say he’s in a bed. He says he needs the bathroom, leaves his room, and starts playing with a toy, or practicing his hopping skills, or anything else he can procrastinate with. Now what?
He’s a harder kid in general, so just telling him he can’t play won’t work. He also doesn’t like being watched in the bathroom, and like a good man he takes his time….
I really don’t think he needs the bathroom. This happens before he falls asleep, not in middle of the night. Plus, before he discovered this trick, he was dry throughout the night almost every night. And he doesn’t even want to go first thing in the morning! |
You can set rules. Once it’s bedtime I take you to the bathroom you go quickly and back to bed. Just pick him up and put him in, you don't have to give in to him wanting to play. He'll get the routine if you stick to it.
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Thu, Sep 21 2023, 10:52 am
It sounds like you're thinking in terms of short term instead of long term. It's easier in the short term to keep him in a crib than to train him how bedtime works. Bedtime is a time for sleep, not play, we stay in our beds with the lights off until we fall asleep. It's easier to keep him in a diaper then to show him that going to the bathroom after bedtime is just that. You go to the bathroom then you go back in your bed.
You need to do the hard work now to train him for the long term. Eventually he'll have to be in a bed and stay in, out of his own will. Eventually he will have to sleep without a diaper too. Do the work now, so you won't have to do it when it'll be harder and not so age appropriate.
Tell him he is a big boy, big boys sleep in big boys beds and big boys know bedtime is for sleeping. For a few nights every time he leaves, in a business like tone you repeat it again "big boys know bedtime is for sleeping" and you take him back to his bed. You repeat as many times as you need to. Never with emotion, just business like. It may be 25 times the first, second and even third night, but I guarantee if you be consistent, eventually it will stick. He'll see it's not even fun and youll be way better off for the long term.
Same applies about bathroom. You hold his hand, gently but firmly, walk him to the bathroom, then when he is done walk him back. You may have to repeat many times initially, but eventually he'll learn its no fun.
Little disclaimer; how old is your son? You haven't mentioned his age. If he is very young and just trained super early, like 18 months, this may not apply. My suggestion was based on the assumption he is somewhere around 3 years old.
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