How does forcing a kid to therapy ease their anxiety?

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amother

Fri, Sep 22 2023, 12:48 pm

I see irl and here!

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Gray

Fri, Sep 22 2023, 12:51 pm

Who said it does? When my four year old in play therapy started refusing to go, the therapist said not to force him and it'll only backfire. She only works with kids who want to be there.

Maybe it's different with older kids, idk

amother

Moonstone

Fri, Sep 22 2023, 1:18 pm

You can bribe and encourage and hope that they'll like it and want to continue.
If it's a situation that is seriously impacting them or the family I.e. school refusal, violence, self harm etc then, yes, you force for treatment which can mean medication if they don't cooperate with therapy.
If it's not so serious but you know they need it, at least don't enable their dysfunctional behavior.

amother

Brass

Fri, Sep 22 2023, 4:34 pm

On a related note:
How do you get kids to take necessary medication, when they’re refusing?

amother

Razzmatazz

Fri, Sep 22 2023, 4:39 pm

Without therapy you can be sure their anxiety will be at its worse. There are ways to “force” without it being scary. Shloimy I sighed you up for basketball clubs you wanted on Wednesdays but we will also be going to a therapist on Tuesday’s. And we can make it special time and stop for ice cream on the way home every time. You force it as in not giving a choice but it can be in a way they are more inclined to go along with it. Parenting is a dance.

amother

Natural

Fri, Sep 22 2023, 4:40 pm

Ime much more helpful for a parent to go instead and learn how to coach the child. This worked well for me BH.

amother

Razzmatazz

Fri, Sep 22 2023, 4:40 pm

amother Brass wrote:

On a related note:
How do you get kids to take necessary medication, when they’re refusing?

Bribes, take it this many times earn that thing you really wanted or give them a special treat every time they take it. You need to figure out what motivates your specific kid.

amother

Linen

Fri, Sep 22 2023, 5:19 pm

amother Natural wrote:

Ime much more helpful for a parent to go instead and learn how to coach the child. This worked well for me BH.

and I did the therapy with my child and the therapisr- all three of us! was awesome

amother

Magenta

Fri, Sep 22 2023, 5:26 pm

It doesn't, it makes it worse, and forcing medication causes irreparable damage as well.

amother

Acacia

Fri, Sep 22 2023, 5:33 pm

My dd12 used to hate therapy, and insisted she will never go, but now she loves going.

Because A. I switched to a good therapist that appreciates the importance of the relationship and knows how to build it.

B. I’ve spent a lot of time listening and validating and talking to my dd. Listening About why she hated her last therapist and explaining what can be different with a new one and how it can make her life better…

C. She’s not forced. I did push her to start, but I told her she doesn’t have to stick with the therapist If she doesn’t want. It took her a few sessions to warm up.

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