What about putting child in crib?

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amother

Mon, Nov 20 2023, 8:56 am

With all this talk about hitting children, I am wondering what people think of putting your toddler in his crib for a time out? Not because he needs to be removed from situation, more as a punishment. For example, my toddler kept climbing on the couch and standing on the arm. I kept removing him and firmly saying “no” but he would do it again a few minutes later. I put him in his crib for 30 seconds and stood in his doorway the whole time. He cried and I reassured him as I stood there. I was always against this as I thought it would make him afraid of his crib but in the moment I wasn’t sure what else to do. Is this something you would do/what could I have done instead?

BrisketBoss

Mon, Nov 20 2023, 8:57 am

I want my children to associate their crib with sleep and comfort, so no. I put them in there when I suspect they are tired.

Why not take the toddler somewhere else, invite them into something else?

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amother

Honeysuckle

Mon, Nov 20 2023, 8:58 am

I personally wouldnt use a crib for time out because then they negatively associate their crib, but I wouldn't say it was abusive.

amother

Mon, Nov 20 2023, 9:01 am

BrisketBoss wrote:

I want my children to associate their crib with sleep and comfort, so no. I put them in there when I suspect they are tired.

Why not take the toddler somewhere else, invite them into something else?

My apartment is small so it’s hard to remove him from something dangerous when he’s in a “loop” like that. But you are right, I could have taken out a game or book. I don’t know if that would have stopped him from trying again a few minutes later though.

amother

Pear

Mon, Nov 20 2023, 9:03 am

If you live in a small apartment, putting a toddler in a crib for a time out is not harmful. You do the best with what you have. Lol I zip mine in or he would climb out. Better he should have a time out than I should lose it with him. Safer for both of us.

When my kids get older and time outs are in bed, they also find comfort from being in bed when they are upset at being told off.

amother

Honeysuckle

Mon, Nov 20 2023, 9:05 am

Can you just put him in his room instead? Make it a safe space and sit in his room with him to remove him from the situation?

amother

Orchid

Mon, Nov 20 2023, 9:11 am

I’ve used the crib. And my kids don’t have bad associations with it. They all go to sleep easily and sing and play in there when they wake up. I’ve only done it a handful of times.

amother

Cadetblue

Mon, Nov 20 2023, 9:50 am

I just put my daughter in her room. I explain that she needs some time apart until she can stop doing xyz, and that she doesn't need to go to sleep or be in bed- I davka don't want her associating her bed with punishment.
I do lock the door if I feel like I need to, and I, personally, feel like that's okay. Her room is a fun, safe place to be with toys and her stuffed animals. If someone is in danger- be it someone she's threatening to hurt or if I can't control myself around her- then everyone needs a break.

amother

Babypink

Mon, Nov 20 2023, 9:55 am

BrisketBoss wrote:

I want my children to associate their crib with sleep and comfort, so no. I put them in there when I suspect they are tired.

Why not take the toddler somewhere else, invite them into something else?

Exactly. Bedtime is impossible as it is.

amother

Ginger

Mon, Nov 20 2023, 10:01 am

It’s completely wrong to do that. The scenario described warrants a distraction not a time out.
Don’t use the crib as a time out place that’s so unfair to your baby.
Upthread whoever wrote they use a bed as a time out, that’s so wrong as well.
Honestly, time outs aren’t the gold standard anymore. There are better ways.

amother

Babypink

Mon, Nov 20 2023, 10:02 am

I have put kids in the crib to relax.
before they misbehave.

Chayalle

Mon, Nov 20 2023, 10:02 am

I think putting child in crib is fine as long as it's not overused.
I had a child who bit, and I was told to put her in a restraining capacity when she did that. It worked, she stopped biting pretty quickly.

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