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amother
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Post Sat, Sep 14 2024, 7:15 pm
hi! So I need to buy a bar mitzvah gift for a non-religious relative. Here are some details:
The family is Conservative, and he has had a Hebrew school education (Sunday school)
They belong to a conservative shul.
we won't be able to attend the bar mitzvah, partially because of the location....
I want to give a gift from our family that is in the $100 or less range.
not electronics. they are probably better off financially that I am, and anyhow, I don't think that's what I want to impart as what's important from his religious relatives...
would love some sort of sefer that isn't too pushy. Book of our heritage? the bar mitzvah Treasury?

thanks in advance!
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amother
Papaya


 

Post Sat, Sep 14 2024, 7:26 pm
Money.

There is absolutely no point in getting anything like a book or equivalent if you actually want to give the boy a gift and not proselytize.
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amother
Aubergine


 

Post Sat, Sep 14 2024, 7:32 pm
Menorah. Kiddush cup. Mezuzah in a nice case.

I like things by Yair Emmanuel by for this type of thing. His style combines modern with classic in a way that honors that it's a spiritual piece while still being modern looking. And the price is Right.
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amother
Nutmeg


 

Post Sat, Sep 14 2024, 7:52 pm
Definitely a Judaic item over a book. U can get personalized whatever it is and it would be something he will just have for years that "the cousins got him for the bar mitzvah" but it's valuable.. it's will keep a sort of connection whenever he sees or uses it
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momX4




 
 
    
 

Post Sat, Sep 14 2024, 7:55 pm
Buy a silver becher. You can get one without the tray
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amother
Cobalt


 

Post Sat, Sep 14 2024, 7:55 pm
amother OP wrote:
hi! So I need to buy a bar mitzvah gift for a non-religious relative. Here are some details:
The family is Conservative, and he has had a Hebrew school education (Sunday school)
They belong to a conservative shul.
we won't be able to attend the bar mitzvah, partially because of the location....
I want to give a gift from our family that is in the $100 or less range.
not electronics. they are probably better off financially that I am, and anyhow, I don't think that's what I want to impart as what's important from his religious relatives...
would love some sort of sefer that isn't too pushy. Book of our heritage? the bar mitzvah Treasury?

thanks in advance!


Don't get a book. Won't be read or appreciated. I got a silver tzedaka box once when in a similar situation.
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amother
Skyblue


 

Post Sat, Sep 14 2024, 7:57 pm
Ditto on the Kiddush cup. That's what I bought for my non religious nephew and the were really happy with the gift
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singleagain




 
 
    
 

Post Sat, Sep 14 2024, 8:12 pm
What about a menorahs? All my siblings got a menorah from our not religious relative for our bar/bat mitzvahs
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amother
Tangerine  


 

Post Sat, Sep 14 2024, 8:24 pm
If you do a book, this is a very impressive presentation:
https://shop.myjli.com/product.....ledge
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amother
Tanzanite


 

Post Sat, Sep 14 2024, 8:26 pm
amother OP wrote:
hi! So I need to buy a bar mitzvah gift for a non-religious relative. Here are some details:
The family is Conservative, and he has had a Hebrew school education (Sunday school)
They belong to a conservative shul.
we won't be able to attend the bar mitzvah, partially because of the location....
I want to give a gift from our family that is in the $100 or less range.
not electronics. they are probably better off financially that I am, and anyhow, I don't think that's what I want to impart as what's important from his religious relatives...
would love some sort of sefer that isn't too pushy. Book of our heritage? the bar mitzvah Treasury?

thanks in advance!


Shofar, I’ve seen some painted ones.

My brother got a shofar from Israel from a family friend at his Chassidish Bar Mitzvah.
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CPenzias




 
 
    
 

Post Sat, Sep 14 2024, 8:41 pm
An umbrella because you know he'll open that 😉
I second or 3rd or 4th the idea of a judaica item as opposed to a book. Maybe something for the chaggim like a shofar or kiddush cup or honey dish
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amother
Anemone


 

Post Sun, Sep 15 2024, 5:23 am
amother Tanzanite wrote:
Shofar, I’ve seen some painted ones.

My brother got a shofar from Israel from a family friend at his Chassidish Bar Mitzvah.
this, or challah cover
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amother
Snowflake


 

Post Sun, Sep 15 2024, 5:59 am
I would give a really nice quality overnight bag
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amother
White


 

Post Sun, Sep 15 2024, 6:16 am
Any personalized gift or judaica item
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Imabubby60  




 
 
    
 

Post Sun, Sep 15 2024, 11:59 am
I have given a book or series of Parsha stories in English that were really appreciated, at least by the boy's parents, lol. They were happy to have something to read on Shabbos night at their table.
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amother
Seashell  


 

Post Sun, Sep 15 2024, 1:33 pm
Please buy him something that he will hopefully read and learn from one day, he will get plenty of other gifts from other people.
I would recommend Book of Our Heritage. 60-90 dollars.

https://www.feldheim.com/book-.....mpact
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amother
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Post Sun, Sep 15 2024, 1:35 pm
amother Seashell wrote:
Please buy him something that he will hopefully read and learn from one day, he will get plenty of other gifts from other people.
I would recommend Book of Our Heritage. 60-90 dollars.

https://www.feldheim.com/book-.....mpact


I was wondering about this. I recall my mom buying it years ago for a non religious relative. do you think it's appropriate? anyone else know this set?
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amother
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Post Sun, Sep 15 2024, 1:35 pm
Imabubby60 wrote:
I have given a book or series of Parsha stories in English that were really appreciated, at least by the boy's parents, lol. They were happy to have something to read on Shabbos night at their table.


which would you recommend? there are two kids in the family, early teen/preteen
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amother
  Seashell


 

Post Sun, Sep 15 2024, 1:52 pm
amother OP wrote:
I was wondering about this. I recall my mom buying it years ago for a non religious relative. do you think it's appropriate? anyone else know this set?


Here's what Amazon says
Customers say
Customers find the book easy to read, well-written, and well-translated. They appreciate the clear explanations of what and why the holidays are. Readers also describe the information quality as wonderful, informative, and detailed.


Definitely appropriate, he may read it now, maybe in a year or two or three, but chance are pretty good he'll read it.
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amother
  Tangerine


 

Post Sun, Sep 15 2024, 1:55 pm
amother Tangerine wrote:
If you do a book, this is a very impressive presentation:
https://shop.myjli.com/product.....ledge

I suggested this book because it is fun to browse through (lots of pictures, diagrams, easy-to-read short explanations) that give a very good overview of Judaism. It's not a reading book, not as thorough as Book of Our Heritage or similar, but light and interesting enough that a teen might enjoy looking at it occasionally.
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