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amother
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Post Mon, Oct 07 2024, 1:35 am
I only have one bed, do harchakos of physically not sleeping together apply on Yom Kippur? Do I need to get a blow up mattress?
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effess




 
 
    
 

Post Mon, Oct 07 2024, 2:07 am
Yk separation is biblical. Not a minhag.
You need a separate bed😔
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kugelEater  




 
 
    
 

Post Mon, Oct 07 2024, 4:20 am
What would you do if you were niddah?
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Raizle  




 
 
    
 

Post Mon, Oct 07 2024, 4:24 am
kugelEater wrote:
What would you do if you were niddah?

Maybe she doesn't become nidda.
It happens
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  kugelEater




 
 
    
 

Post Mon, Oct 07 2024, 4:25 am
Raizle wrote:
Maybe she doesn't become nidda.
It happens

Ever ever ever? How does that work? (how can I sign up? lol)
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amother
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Post Mon, Oct 07 2024, 4:28 am
kugelEater wrote:
Ever ever ever? How does that work? (how can I sign up? lol)


Its not "fun" - people without a womb don't get a period ( I have a friend like this, she had 2 kids thru surrogacy)

But my assumption is that she is away for sukkos and the vacation home or hotel room does not have two beds....
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amother
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Post Mon, Oct 07 2024, 4:30 am
kugelEater wrote:
Ever ever ever? How does that work? (how can I sign up? lol)


I had a hysterectomy for medical reasons at age 37. Therefore, I stopped being nida at a relatively young age. B"H I already had 4 children.
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amother
Hyacinth


 

Post Mon, Oct 07 2024, 4:38 am
My in laws are past menopause. When they moved as seniors they brought the second bed with them to have just for Yom kipper.
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amother
DarkPurple


 

Post Mon, Oct 07 2024, 4:38 am
kugelEater wrote:
Ever ever ever? How does that work? (how can I sign up? lol)


Ever heard of menopause?
I didn't know that we need to separate the beds for y'k. That's new to me.
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amother
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Post Mon, Oct 07 2024, 5:17 am
kugelEater wrote:
Ever ever ever? How does that work? (how can I sign up? lol)

Menopause??? hysterectomy???
So many reasons why one would never be nidda.
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amother
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Post Mon, Oct 07 2024, 5:19 am
effess wrote:
Yk separation is biblical. Not a minhag.
You need a separate bed😔

What is the source?
We have one bed, I had to have a hystetectomy.
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  Raizle  




 
 
    
 

Post Mon, Oct 07 2024, 5:39 am
Yeah I don't think you have to have an extra bed just for Yom Kippur unless you don't trust yourselves.
You can't be intimate though
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amother
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Post Mon, Oct 07 2024, 6:06 am
Raizle wrote:
Yeah I don't think you have to have an extra bed just for Yom Kippur unless you don't trust yourselves.
You can't be intimate though

No, on Yom Kippur you need to jeep harchakos even if you do trust yourselves.
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amother
Valerian


 

Post Mon, Oct 07 2024, 6:10 am
You need another bed. It’s Halacha.
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Brit in Israel




 
 
    
 

Post Mon, Oct 07 2024, 6:14 am
Raizle wrote:
Yeah I don't think you have to have an extra bed just for Yom Kippur unless you don't trust yourselves.
You can't be intimate though


Pretty sure it doesn't work like that for YK and Tisha baav.
Of course OP should ask her Rav.
We will all be happy to hear for her otherwise.
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Hashem_Yaazor  




 
 
    
 

Post Mon, Oct 07 2024, 6:31 am
It's one night, can someone sleep on the couch?
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  Raizle




 
 
    
 

Post Mon, Oct 07 2024, 6:51 am
Brit in Israel wrote:
Pretty sure it doesn't work like that for YK and Tisha baav.
Of course OP should ask her Rav.
We will all be happy to hear for her otherwise.


So people who no longer get their periods have to keep an extra bed for 2 days a year? Ok I'm curious what the Rov will say. OP please let us know. If you have to do it then I'd just get a blow up bed
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  Hashem_Yaazor  




 
 
    
 

Post Mon, Oct 07 2024, 6:54 am
They need to have an alternative location for sleeping for two nights a year, yes.
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amother
Babyblue


 

Post Mon, Oct 07 2024, 6:58 am
I was told we do not need to keep all harchakos on Tisha B'Av, but yes on YK.
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zaq




 
 
    
 

Post Mon, Oct 07 2024, 7:27 am
kugelEater wrote:
Ever ever ever? How does that work? (how can I sign up? lol)



Post menopause, post hysterectomy,etc. Not everyone here is a fertile twenty-year-old.
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