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amother
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Post Mon, Oct 28 2024, 7:54 pm
Ds4 is going to be so upset if dh doesn’t want to take him. I understand dh bc he doesn’t really have anything to learn with him but ds is so jealous anyway. At what age do your boys start going?
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amother
Mintgreen


 

Post Mon, Oct 28 2024, 7:56 pm
Every town is different, think mine started around second or third grade. 4 is a bit young.
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amother
Foxglove


 

Post Mon, Oct 28 2024, 7:58 pm
5 or 6. When there's what to review.
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amother
Lawngreen  


 

Post Mon, Oct 28 2024, 8:01 pm
Shul is on our street, ds now 5 started going for approx 10-20 mins a bit after Pesach. I was in the park next to the shul and he would come to me after until the end and go back to fetch the treat. Many kids did that especially those with several brothers, they all had turns.
They also gave cards for a Chinese auction they did now but it was only from 6 up.
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giftedmom




 
 
    
 

Post Mon, Oct 28 2024, 8:02 pm
Kitah aleph generally
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amother
Rose  


 

Post Mon, Oct 28 2024, 8:20 pm
By us you generally start at 5, but anyone can come. My dh took our oldest son when he was 3.
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amother
Midnight  


 

Post Mon, Oct 28 2024, 8:32 pm
My son started at 4. They brought home a weekly newsletter & alef beis review, so they did that. DH took him about 1/2 hour after they officially started.
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amother
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Post Mon, Oct 28 2024, 8:36 pm
It depends on the neighborhood.
My son is 5 and started kita bais now.
But there aren't many 5 year olds Here who go. But dh will likely take him anyway.
He usually "farhers" / reviews and does the weekly ivri and all other stuff after the seuda in the morning anyway. He'll just start doing it in shul at uvos ibunim.
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amother
Cream


 

Post Mon, Oct 28 2024, 8:38 pm
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Denim


 

Post Mon, Oct 28 2024, 8:47 pm
amother Cobalt wrote:
It depends on the neighborhood.
My son is 5 and started kita bais now.
But there aren't many 5 year olds Here who go. But dh will likely take him anyway.
He usually "farhers" / reviews and does the weekly ivri and all other stuff after the seuda in the morning anyway. He'll just start doing it in shul at uvos ibunim.


How is your son 5 and in 2nd grade?
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amother
Freesia


 

Post Mon, Oct 28 2024, 9:06 pm
Depends on family position.

My oldest son probably in 3rd grade.
My youngest son at age 5….
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amother
Wisteria


 

Post Mon, Oct 28 2024, 9:09 pm
amother Denim wrote:
How is your son 5 and in 2nd grade?


She’s prob chassidish. Kitta beis is 1st grade for chassidish cheiders

For OP- I think my shul has an age limit, I’m pretty sure my boys started in 1st grade or primary. I guess that means 5 or 6
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mha3484




 
 
    
 

Post Mon, Oct 28 2024, 9:12 pm
I let my boys go in 1st grade.
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mommyhood




 
 
    
 

Post Mon, Oct 28 2024, 9:12 pm
Pre 1a or 1st grade and they review Kriah and Chumash once they start in school but they bring a book to look at so they have soemthing to do while dh learns with the older ones.
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bsy




 
 
    
 

Post Mon, Oct 28 2024, 9:27 pm
I'm planning to send my son this year in 1st grade. He only started having things to review like Chumash this year
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amother
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Post Mon, Oct 28 2024, 9:52 pm
Ok so I’ll have to figure out how to tell younger ds that his time hasn’t come yet. I didn’t realize he’s too young- thought he can do Alef beis and books..
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amother
Daffodil


 

Post Mon, Oct 28 2024, 10:06 pm
My oldest son started at 5.5, but my youngest started at 4.5 because all his older brothers were going etc- when he turned 3.5 and was asking to go we made it a special mommy and me time and I bought crafts and projects to do, we would review aleph beis, make popcorn or cookies, do arts n crafts, open a new toy etc
Now he goes and knows he needs to be calmly looking at a book until it is his turn otherwise he won't be invited for the next shabbos. It isn't a punishment, he is just not as big yet, and if he is home with me we do something fun.
At this point he has been going on shabbos day with no issues, will see what motzei shabbos brings as that is so late so we might go back to what we did last year
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amother
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Post Mon, Oct 28 2024, 10:16 pm
amother Denim wrote:
How is your son 5 and in 2nd grade?

Cut off here is mid/end summer.
He'll be 6 shevuos time. Kita alf is kindergarten (or prek), kita bais is pre1a (or Kindergarten), kita gimel is 1st.
Sort of.
Becuase the girls cut off is December. And the boys cut off is tamuz/av
Go figure.
I have 3 kids shevuos time. When my daughter was 5 like him she was in pre1a.
It's kind of intense here the curriculum. He already had his chumash seuda, and they already started chumash last year, halacha, gematria and more.... This year they'll do more chumash and then start on rashi. They only start reading and writing English in kita daled, that's 2nd grade.

When my daughters were his age they were starting with alef bais....
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amother
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Post Mon, Oct 28 2024, 10:38 pm
I think it really depends on the specific shul. My 4 year old went last year already at 3. Had some parsha questions but not much.
But its a real fun time for the kids in our shul they learn have a bunch of raffles and food. I sent along a coloring book with some crayons to entertain him while the other boys finished learning.
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amother
Oleander  


 

Post Mon, Oct 28 2024, 11:39 pm
There is no rule. It's family dependent. We decided we start in kita alef (5) but hubby has taken some boys earlier here and there . They can do their pasha shilas or review alef bais. No heavy duty learning necessary.
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