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amother
Birch


 

Post Wed, Oct 30 2024, 6:19 pm
Surprised you came this far with no cameras...
If you do choose to keep her, definitely put up cameras anyway. They don't need be specifically for her, for general security also.

You also may want to ask your Rav a shaila about the kashrus of your kitchen that was left with a non-Jew without supervision.
I asked and was told I am not allowed to have one clean when I'm not there, I'm not sure about after the fact...
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amother
Hyssop


 

Post Wed, Oct 30 2024, 6:19 pm
I found out my baby was placed in front of a TV for who knows how many hours a day. I pulled out pretty quickly after that (licensed daycare)
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amother
Sapphire


 

Post Wed, Oct 30 2024, 6:32 pm
amother Burntblack wrote:
I live next door to a popular park. You have no idea what the sitters and the “nurses” that care for twins do there with the kids. It pains me immensely to see.


Are we neighbors? Those poor babies sit and klotz whilst the nurses chat in the frosty weather
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amother
Moccasin


 

Post Wed, Oct 30 2024, 6:58 pm
OP, your kids shouldn't be the background on her screen. I honestly would not allow a non-Jewish babysitter to take pictures of my children. It isn't safe.
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amother
  Electricblue  


 

Post Wed, Oct 30 2024, 7:00 pm
amother Sapphire wrote:
Are we neighbors? Those poor babies sit and klotz whilst the nurses chat in the frosty weather


I am a sahm when my kids are babies. I used to be one of the only moms at library with all the nannies. Let's just say...I wasn't impressed.
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amother
  Electricblue  


 

Post Wed, Oct 30 2024, 7:03 pm
amother Iris wrote:
Please elaborate. I can't afford a baby nurse although everyone around me seems to have one so would love to hear the horror stories


I had a lovely baby nurse but she didn't take my baby to the park. She was there for postpartum so I could get sleep at night.
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amother
Leaf


 

Post Wed, Oct 30 2024, 8:02 pm
amother Burntblack wrote:
I live next door to a popular park. You have no idea what the sitters and the “nurses” that care for twins do there with the kids. It pains me immensely to see.


Yep. The toddler is buckled in the stroller while the nanny sits on her phone. Occasionally she looked up and offered another bite. Then yelled NO when kid refused it. Poor little kid just wanted to be unbuckled and run around.
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amother
Bottlebrush  


 

Post Wed, Oct 30 2024, 8:08 pm
OP, besides for the point that your sitter has your kids picture as her phone wall paper, having a non jew in your house unsupervised of without camera's, may automatically render your kitchen treif.
Please discuss this issue with a Rav.
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amother
Banana


 

Post Wed, Oct 30 2024, 8:24 pm
Few points I want to address I have had many babysitters in my home and I have cameras. Ive had frum women (who I paid a fortune) I had to fire for awful things. So dont tell me never have a non-jew. Bh I have an amazing hispanic lady who loves my child and takes great care of her she was not easy to find and I never fully trust and therefore keep close eye on cameras and randomly pop in.
Cameras are a must I cant say it enough. Just explain that we are having some workers in the house now so we are installing cameras if she leaves so be it it’s probably a sign she’s hiding more than you think. I also always tell my lady baby is priority if you cant get to cleaning thats fine as shes taken care of. I wouldnt fire for something like that if you never explicitly told her not to show her devices. I would give it another chance but absolutely get cameras.
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amother
  OP


 

Post Wed, Oct 30 2024, 9:15 pm
Thank you everyone!! I’m going to look into cameras. Regarding kashrus, she doesn’t touch anything in the kitchen. Can anyone recommend cameras to get??

Also just want to clarify I wasn’t saying that I feel like a bad mother that my child saw a screen… I don’t think you’re a bad parent if you show your kids screens. Just feel like a bad mother that I left my child with someone like this 😞
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amother
  Burntblack  


 

Post Wed, Oct 30 2024, 9:45 pm
amother Sapphire wrote:
Are we neighbors? Those poor babies sit and klotz whilst the nurses chat in the frosty weather


The babies are facing the [gentile woman] so they can’t even watch other kids play. They’re on their phones a whole time. Then they take the kid out for a second, snap a picture, and put them back in their double stroller. I see it ALL THE TIME!
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  flowerpower




 
 
    
 

Post Wed, Oct 30 2024, 9:48 pm
amother OP wrote:
Thank you everyone!! I’m going to look into cameras. Regarding kashrus, she doesn’t touch anything in the kitchen. Can anyone recommend cameras to get??

Also just want to clarify I wasn’t saying that I feel like a bad mother that my child saw a screen… I don’t think you’re a bad parent if you show your kids screens. Just feel like a bad mother that I left my child with someone like this 😞


My cleaning lady doesn’t either touch the kitchen besides for washing it. Once I left for 2 minutes to get something from the next block. I came home to finding her cooking some eggs. Had I not gotten home on time… who knows! I had to kasher the pot and all.

I suggest calling a low voltage guy. They are very popular these days.
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amother
  Burntblack


 

Post Wed, Oct 30 2024, 9:52 pm
amother Iris wrote:
Please elaborate. I can't afford a baby nurse although everyone around me seems to have one so would love to hear the horror stories


A baby nurse is a woman from a different country that is here on a 6 month visa. Please don’t be jealous. I would never trust my kid alone with one of them.
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amother
Linen  


 

Post Wed, Oct 30 2024, 9:55 pm
amother OP wrote:
Thank you everyone!! I’m going to look into cameras. Regarding kashrus, she doesn’t touch anything in the kitchen. Can anyone recommend cameras to get??

Also just want to clarify I wasn’t saying that I feel like a bad mother that my child saw a screen… I don’t think you’re a bad parent if you show your kids screens. Just feel like a bad mother that I left my child with someone like this 😞

So DO SOMETHING about it!
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tichellady  




 
 
    
 

Post Wed, Oct 30 2024, 10:02 pm
This would be a dealbreaker for me. Leaving a 9 month old alone with a show is very strange to me
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  tichellady




 
 
    
 

Post Wed, Oct 30 2024, 10:03 pm
amother Peony wrote:
My advice is don’t let a non Jewish babysitter watch your baby. There are too many stories.


There are many stories about Jewish babysitters on this site too. It’s about the person not whether they are Jewish or not
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amother
Nectarine


 

Post Wed, Oct 30 2024, 10:31 pm
Red flag that her phone wallpaper is photos of your kids. Too close for comfort.
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amother
Myrtle


 

Post Wed, Oct 30 2024, 10:34 pm
amother OP wrote:
Thank you everyone!! I’m going to look into cameras. Regarding kashrus, she doesn’t touch anything in the kitchen. Can anyone recommend cameras to get??

Also just want to clarify I wasn’t saying that I feel like a bad mother that my child saw a screen… I don’t think you’re a bad parent if you show your kids screens. Just feel like a bad mother that I left my child with someone like this 😞

How would you know she doesn't touch anything in your kitchen if there aren't any cameras? I wouldn't take her word for it. Respect and suspect.
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Tao




 
 
    
 

Post Wed, Oct 30 2024, 10:38 pm
amother OP wrote:
We’ve had her for years and she usually so great. Like she is so loving to them and even has my kids as her background on her phone. I just don’t know what to do. Finding another babysitter is not really an option right now… how do I suddenly introduce cameras into the house after years of having her without it being offensive or awkward between us she’s already very sensitive


No offence, and I'm sure your kids are adorable, but this is super duper creepy.
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amother
Dill


 

Post Wed, Oct 30 2024, 10:40 pm
amother OP wrote:
We’ve had her for years and she usually so great. Like she is so loving to them and even has my kids as her background on her phone. I just don’t know what to do. Finding another babysitter is not really an option right now… how do I suddenly introduce cameras into the house after years of having her without it being offensive or awkward between us she’s already very sensitive


Tbh I would be weary if a random babysitter had my babies picture as her background.
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