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Anyone have a child with rejection sensitive dysphoria?
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amother
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Post Wed, Nov 06 2024, 1:08 am
My husband self diagnosed himself. I have to say that things have really improved since he figured it out. It’s not perfect but he can catch himself now.
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amother
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Post Wed, Nov 06 2024, 1:49 am
amother OP wrote:
What vicious cycle? Underlying cause for both what?


For both the anxiety and the RSD. They feed off each other and there's usually an underlying cause for both of them.
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Post Wed, Nov 06 2024, 2:31 am
amother OP wrote:
https://www.selfloverainbow.com/rejection-sensitive-dysphoria/

https://mind.help/topic/reject.....oria/


Oh wow, this explains so much about someone I know
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amother
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Post Wed, Nov 06 2024, 5:20 am
amother OP wrote:
RSD isn't given as a diagnosis anywhere. It's just a term that explains the extreme reactions some people have to criticism and perceived rejection. Obviously this child has other things going on. I was just wondering if anyone dealt with this from a parenting end and how.


I used to be like this.

I was a rejected unwanted child with self esteem below zero.
since starting to heal, I am much better.
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amother
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Post Wed, Nov 06 2024, 5:24 am
amother Mocha wrote:
The people in my life who have it certainly don't think they're perfect. in fact, it's the opposite.
They are very down on themselves.

If I bring up something to dh that he does that hurts me, he literally gets down and depressed for a few days wondering how such a horrible person he could be for hurting me.

It took a long time for me to understand this, I kept saying "I don't get it, YOU hurt ME, how is this all about YOU now?"


I was the same.

if I acknowledged that I hurt someone I would be sick and depressed about.

I knew it wasnt healthy and its not because I am a nice person but because
I hate myself and cant accept myself for doing it...

dont know how to explain...
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amother
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Post Wed, Nov 06 2024, 7:33 am
amother Chicory wrote:
For both the anxiety and the RSD. They feed off each other and there's usually an underlying cause for both of them.
Yes, there's an underlying cause and we're dealing with but there are no quick or easy fixes. I still need to parent my child.
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amother
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Post Wed, Nov 06 2024, 8:00 pm
I've never heard of this as a condition before.
So if you have a personality that for them saying they are sorry equals also ending the relationship and they are unable to discuss issues and deal with anyone that requires emotion would it be this?
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amother
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Post Wed, Nov 06 2024, 8:06 pm
amother Chartreuse wrote:
I've never heard of this as a condition before.
So if you have a personality that for them saying they are sorry equals also ending the relationship and they are unable to discuss issues and deal with anyone that requires emotion would it be this?
It's not really a condition, just a term to explain a constellation of behaviors that come along with having extreme reactions to perceived rejection or criticism.

But yes, my dc that is this way has all those behaviors you describes. I
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amother
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Post Wed, Nov 06 2024, 8:54 pm
amother OP wrote:
It's not really a condition, just a term to explain a constellation of behaviors that come along with having extreme reactions to perceived rejection or criticism.

But yes, my dc that is this way has all those behaviors you describes. I


How about avoiding situations where they have to say goodbye to people?
I'm thinking the person tanked our relationship to avoid an emotional farewell.
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amother
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Post Wed, Nov 06 2024, 9:12 pm
amother Chartreuse wrote:
How about avoiding situations where they have to say goodbye to people?
I'm thinking the person tanked our relationship to avoid an emotional farewell.

Since it's often secondary to other mental health issues this person likely has more going on that makes them avoid emotionally intense situations.
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amother
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Post Wed, Nov 06 2024, 9:37 pm
amother OP wrote:
Since it's often secondary to other mental health issues this person likely has more going on that makes them avoid emotionally intense situations.


Oh yeah
Heaps of trauma
ADHD and I suspect an element of ASD. She's really smart so she may be able to hide it. It's like she knows appropriate behaviour for everyone else but not herself.
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amother
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Post Wed, Nov 06 2024, 9:48 pm
amother Chartreuse wrote:
Oh yeah
Heaps of trauma
ADHD and I suspect an element of ASD. She's really smart so she may be able to hide it. It's like she knows appropriate behaviour for everyone else but not herself.
I was going to guess asd. They have a very hard time expressing emotions. Rejection sensitivity goes together with asd.
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