Is it "not yeshivish" to wear sunglasses?

↑ amother ↓

Fri, Jul 05 2013, 12:23 pm

Can you wear sunglasses with a snood/tichel? Or is that a big fashion no-no?

↑ Mama Bear

Fri, Jul 05 2013, 12:25 pm

These are the ones I bought. I bought a dozen since they are cheap quality and break quickly. It's low-key and not too 'attracting'.

http://www.modasunglass.com/pr.....p.htm

↑ Ruchel

Fri, Jul 05 2013, 1:25 pm

amother wrote:

Can you wear sunglasses with a snood/tichel? Or is that a big fashion no-no?

of course you can

Hatemywig

Fri, Jul 05 2013, 4:37 pm

At the end of the day, it all boils down to the same thing: What will the neighbors say, What will my children's school say? Will my children find Shidduchim?

pause

Fri, Jul 05 2013, 5:14 pm

Hatemywig wrote:

At the end of the day, it all boils down to the same thing: What will the neighbors say, What will my children's school say? Will my children find Shidduchim?

That's it!

Maya

Fri, Jul 05 2013, 6:23 pm

amother wrote:

I have sunglasses that I keep in the car. cheapo ones from walmart or target. so does dh. (he got ones that go over his glasses- not clip on ones but a whole second glasses.)

otherwise I generally dont wear them (I am yeshivish)

yeshivish people that do wear sunglasses, generally wont get the "in" ones or are more likely to get the cheapest ones that do the job.

whereas my SIL who is not yeshivish (tho comes from yeshivish background) wears sunglasses every time she walks out the door in the summer... but for her its a fashion statement as much as a practical thing to wear. she gets brand names and a new one every year. and does the same for her kids. (she puts sunglasses on her child who is under a year... in addition to a rimmed hat and a stroller sunshade.) they dont get the same brands as she does, but they dont get the cheapest ones either.

that would be the difference in my mind.

So cheap is okay, but expensive pairs are not? How hypocritical.

I also wear sunglasses every time I leave the house, and I have $150 Ray Bans because I want good ones for driving and they were the best ones I tried. Does this mean I am now "cooler" or "bummier" than you in your $20 pair?

These things are so ridiculous.

↑ zaq

Fri, Jul 05 2013, 6:37 pm

Chill about the shidduchim. G-d gives you one bolt fabric with which to sew your garment. If you cut your fabric a certain way "for the sake of shidduchim", you will find yourself living a lie and stuck forever wearing a garment that doesn't suit you one bit. It might even choke you.

Do you seriously WANT machatonim who would reject your child if you wore stylish sunglasses/use a colored tablecloth/drive a sporty car/drive, period/ wear dangly earrings/ shop with a bubby cart/ use plastic tablecloths/chew gum/ stack dishes/ wear a hat as opposed to a sheitel or a scarf as opposed to a hat, etc?

Not only would such people be too shallow for words and not deserving of a shidduch with your gem of a dc, but you know the charade won't end when the glass is stomped on. If you present yourself a certain way, once your dc are safely married to these heilige judgmental people, you will have to continue playing the role for the rest of your life. Otherwise the other side will claim that the shidduch was made under false pretenses, and let's not go there.

Why pretend to be something that you are not? If you feel that wearing sunglasses or driving a convertible is morally wrong, by all means quit now--not because of shidduchim but because you feel it's morally wrong. But if you personally see nothing wrong with wearing shades on your eyes or bright shades of pink and purple on your eyelids, then why let anyone else dictate to you? Why not be exactly what you are and let your dc consider potential shidduchim with people who accept you exactly the way you are?

It's hard enough to learn how to get along with a whole new set of relatives when one has been completely honest (although of course on one's best behavior) from the outset. How one manages when one has been pretending is beyond my understanding. Also beyond my understanding is why one would want to.

buzz

Sat, Jul 06 2013, 10:16 am

zaq wrote:

LOVE THIS POST!

Be what you want to be, not because of shidduchim!!

tzfatisha

Sun, Jul 07 2013, 7:25 am

personally I hate wearing sunglasses.. at least the clip on kind.. partly because I have a difficult prescription and I'd rather cope with the glare than the problem created by the clip-on sunglasses.

on the other hand if I had the money I would totally get the photocromatic kind of prescription sunglasses that go dark in the sunshine but are normal indoors...

I don't get why there would be a problem with sunglasses in the first place. opticians and eye doctors say they are essential to protect your eyes from the sun.

[inappropriate attack deleted. -merelyme, as mod]

↑ DrMom

Sun, Jul 07 2013, 8:13 am

tzfatisha wrote:

I don't get why there would be a problem with sunglasses in the first place. opticians and eye doctors say they are essential to protect your eyes from the sun.

^^This.

I guess cataracts and macular degeneration is "very yeshivish."

mimimom

Thu, Jul 18 2013, 2:52 pm

Who's going to pay for the cataract surgery? That's nuts.

chani8

Thu, Jul 18 2013, 4:50 pm

Well, what did we decide about sunglasses?

Am I, or am I not, yeshivish???? What

↑ amother

Thu, Jul 18 2013, 10:10 pm

mimimom wrote:

Who's going to pay for the cataract surgery? That's nuts.

Please chill. everyone's fine. really. even people who don't wear sunglasses. really.

observer

Thu, Jul 18 2013, 10:11 pm

Is there something wrong with me that I don't feel any need to wear sunglasses? And they're a pain to always keep track of- off/on/off/on, etc...

IloveHashem613

Fri, Jul 19 2013, 12:53 am

I was going to wear sunglasses but then I looked inside the Torah and one of the 613 mitzvot says "Though shalt not wear sunglasses lest you will not be Yeshivish" so I realized that it wasn't worth violating an actual mitzvah in the Torah to protect my eyes from the sun. Thank g-d I have my priorities straight.