I really thought I started a thread like this but couldn't find it. I wanted to post a link to it in a certain thread. Oh well.
Look, ladies, when someone posts something problematic about a family member, and we're not talking about "get out of the house now abuse" but anything from quirks and idiosyncrasies to middos and beyond, please, PLEASE remember that OP has to live with her husband/in-laws/siblings/kids, etc. It is SO not constructive to call her husband/in-laws/siblings/kids jerks, contributing to global problems, people you are glad to now have notice to avoid in the streets, etc.
And not only does OP have to live with these people, but she should do so with love and respect. Our comments should not make it harder for her to do so.
There have to be kinder and gentler ways to express oneself.
Thanks for letting me vent.