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Need poem for wedding gift

I need some beautiful wedding wishes to write. I don't know the couple but sending gift.
Thanks for your help

Replies : 2  View Post (Post reply)  Posted by: ilovegod Yesterday at 11:43 pm

Even Ezer ben Malka - victim of terror attack

Please daven for Even Ezer ben Malka, father of six, who was the victim of a car ramming attack this morning at the Gush Etzion junction.
He has severe head injuries and is undergoing surgery.

Replies : 6  View Post (Post reply)  Posted by: etky Fri, Nov 17 2017, 8:26 am

Do you know a real dvar Torah or vort re healing

My family is having open heart surgery. Can you please give me real dvar Torah to his wife sitting there with some of the family? Some thing from a Shiur etc

Replies : 10  View Post (Post reply)  Posted by: amother Mon, Nov 13 2017, 10:25 am

My mum has cancer :( websites to assign people to tehillim?

Hi everyone,

I haven't been here in a very long time, and before that tending to lurk. But a week ago my mum, who is 67, was diagnosed with stage IV lung cancer, which had already spread to her hips, ribs & spine. No symptoms, just recently caught a chest infection when travelling and after a few with with no improvement on assorted antibiotics she was sent for a scan and that's when they saw they tumors.

Unfortunately lung cancer has a pretty bleak outcome - 1-2% chance of being alive in 5 years. But I believe Hashem gave her this cancer, and Hashem can take it away. It is still a very big shock and we are all falling apart.

A lot of my friends will help me out finishing sefer tehillim daily, but I was having problems finding a website where they can put their names down next to specific tehillim, so that was I don't have to assign people & contact them etc. Only websites I could find was ones where I put in her name and then it generates ones for me to say, and other people who are online etc., but I was more looking for something like takethemameal.com

Otherwise I guess I could set up a spreadsheet on google docs, but that way people could accidentally delete information etc.

Anyone know of something out there?

In the meantime, if you could please daven for Shoshana bas Lotte, I would be very grateful.

May all the cholim have a complete refuah!


Replies : 11  View Post (Post reply)  Posted by: Yael_D Thu, Nov 09 2017, 7:47 pm

New Guidelines For Access to the Chassidishe Velt Sub-Forum

The guidelines for access to the CV have been expanded.

Our goal is to be welcoming and accepting to all who have experienced chassidish life at some point in their lives. We value various, diverse opinions and respectful discussion about all topics chassidish-related.

Thus if you fall into any of these categories, please pm flowerpower for access:

a) anyone who grew up chassidish and is currently living a chassidishe lifestyle
b) anyone who grew up chassidish and is not currently living a chassidish lifestyle
c) anyone who didn't grow up chassidish but is currently living a chassidishe lifestyle (whether because they became chassidish or married chassidish)

We look forward to see you there!

Replies : 0  View Post (Post reply)  Posted by: pause Wed, Nov 08 2017, 9:35 am

Marital Intimacy can be so complex. That can change for you.

Dear married Jewish woman,

A couple of months ago I sent out an anonymous survey asking women what were the main challenges they faced in the intimate part of their marriage.

Here are some struggles that women shared:

-"I feel like it's another thing on my long "To Do" list"

-"My husband will be emotionally distant for days, and then turn around and want to be close"

-"we approach this subject so differently, it causes so much tension between us"

-"It feels so... unspiritual, low. I just don't get how this can be something holy”

-"I'm there for my husband. I don't see what's in it for me"

You might be able to relate to some of these feelings, or it's all working well for you but you wish to take your marriage to even greater heights.

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Replies : 3  View Post (Post reply)  Posted by: Yael Tue, Nov 07 2017, 10:38 am

Different Child, Different Tools


On Monday, Esti* finds herself in the special ed classroom once again. Esti has no trouble keeping up with the curriculum; she has trouble keeping quiet when it’s time for silent work. There are only so many outbursts that her teachers and classmates can tolerate before Esti needs to be transferred to a different room. In the resource room, the teachers are not quite sure what to do with her. Esti doesn’t really belong there as her learning skills are fine. What she needs is somebody to help her practice better classroom skills. Esti needs to first learn those skills so that she can implement them in a regular classroom setting. Moving her to the resource room may help her classmates, but it doesn’t help Esti.

On Tuesday, Dina* once again turns in an empty homework sheet. Dina’s mother is too busy at night to help her 7th grader with her homework. Dina didn’t understand the instructions on the homework sheet so she did not review any of the material learned the day before. Not only did she miss the review that homework would have given her, she now begins her day flooded with anxiety as she waits to see how her teacher will react. Like all people, Dina doesn’t learn well when she’s anxious, and Tuesday night finds her once again staring blankly at another homework sheet.

On Wednesday, Tzvi* finally came back to school. Tzvi is a bright child who normally participates in class, does his work in a timely manner and finishes his homework independently. About a month ago, Tzvi hurt himself badly when he fell off his bike, and he spent the past four weeks in the hospital and at home in bed. Tzvi is excited to be back in school, but when the teacher starts talking he feels lost when he realizes that the rest of the class covered a lot of material while he was gone.

On Thursday, it is Leah’s* turn to read aloud in her special reading group. There are five girls in the reading group, but Leah is by far the slowest. While the others are learning how to find characters, plot and other literary elements in a story, Leah is still struggling with decoding. The other girls fidget as Leah reads at an excruciatingly slow pace. Leah feels her cheeks get hot as she grows more and more uncomfortable.

On Friday, Menachem* doesn’t go to school at all. His parents know where he is, but he is there against their will. Menachem skips school often, and nobody knows why. He won’t talk to his parents about it, and his Rebbe and principal have had no better luck. With no competent adult in his life to confide in, there is nobody to help Menachem deal with the demons that are causing him to skip school and sink deeper and deeper into a hole.


What all these children have in common, is that each one can benefit from an adult who will work one-on-one with him or her.

A mentor can help a child who is dealing with non-academic issues that are having a negative affect on the child’s school performance or general behavior. Whether the cause is rooted in a difficult personality, a challenging home life or negative influence from friends, a one-on-one mentor provides a child with a secure place where he can work on himself and grow. Every child has strengths and positive qualities. A mentor can tune into these to help build them up so that the child feels more confident, secure and happy with himself. A child who is happy with himself will generally make smarter and better choices.

A tutor can help a child who needs assistance keeping up with his or her class. Whether the trouble stems from learning differences, reading problems, confidence issues, a large gap in attendance or a move to a new school, a tutor who works one-on-one with a child is well positioned to help the child learn at an optimal pace.


The resource room at school is geared towards helping groups of children with learning differences. It isn’t fair to Esti or the other children there, to use that space as a “time-out” for poor behavior. The things that are taught in the resource room may not be what Esti needs to learn at all. Perhaps Esti needs a boost of self-esteem, or maybe she needs to learn impulse control. Developing a new hobby or skill can do wonders for Esti as well.

A mentor can help Esti find her innate strengths and talents so that she can focus on her positive side and improve her classroom behavior. A mentor will build a relationship with Esti while modeling and teaching appropriate skills. As she grows, Esti will develop the tools she needs to change the way she acts in the classroom. This one-on-one interaction with a mentor can be the key to helping Esti succeed.

Dina needs somebody to help her with her homework. She’s a bright child, but the instruction part is often confusing for her. If she can not ...

Replies : 0  View Post (Post reply)  Posted by: Yael Sun, Nov 05 2017, 10:52 am

Has your face been able to recover fully from severe acne?
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