Leaving a 11 month baby with siblings and grandmother

amother

Lemonlime

Mon, Nov 27 2023, 5:18 am

Forsure Id do it
.amazing that you have a great babysitter.

amother

Mon, Nov 27 2023, 8:29 am

Thanks all for reassuring me Smile

My husband will be so happy to go on vacation, our marriage needs it!

amother

DarkGray

Mon, Nov 27 2023, 8:30 am

I have left a baby that age with dh but wouldn't leave with a different adult unless it was a true emergency.

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Copper

Mon, Nov 27 2023, 8:37 am

I left a nursing baby that age with DH for a week and a half once when I had to travel abroad for work. I'm sure it was somewhat disorienting, but my son was already in full-day daycare (8:30 to 5) and accustomed to drinking milk from a bottle, and to being apart from me for significant periods. I was able to resume nursing when I returned and DH didn't have any problems while I was gone.

amother

Turquoise

Mon, Nov 27 2023, 9:42 am

amother Seafoam wrote:

For a baby it’s traumatic to be separated from their mother. Is it an emergency? If not wait another few months until baby is older.

I disagree. Out of site, out of mind.
I work in a gan. Kids are from 9 months through to 16 months.
Once they are in the gan, and know their adults who are watching them, they are fine. More than fine. They dont even think about mommy and daddy.
Ots really out of site out of mind. There is no trauma here.

amother

Mon, Nov 27 2023, 9:53 am

amother Turquoise wrote:

Thanks, that’s good to hear!

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Chambray

Mon, Nov 27 2023, 9:55 am

amother OP wrote:

Thanks all for reassuring me Smile

My husband will be so happy to go on vacation, our marriage needs it!

Go & enjoy your vacation! Strengthening your marriage is good for the kids.

amother

Blonde

Mon, Nov 27 2023, 9:55 am

Here goes all those who can pinpoint future trauma directly to leaving a baby at home with her loving grandmother.

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Aqua

Mon, Nov 27 2023, 9:59 am

I’m not one to leave my kids so quickly (even much older ones), but with this setup I would go in a heartbeat! Do it! Do not wait. An opportunity might not come up again for years.

amother

DarkViolet

Mon, Nov 27 2023, 12:14 pm

amother OP wrote:

Not so often, every few weeks
She would come early that day and I’d be leaving at night
Hopefully she’ll be sleeping by the time I leave

What if she wakes up during the night? Is she easy to get back to bed and okay with someone else helping her?

amother

Mon, Nov 27 2023, 12:28 pm

amother DarkViolet wrote:

What if she wakes up during the night? Is she easy to get back to bed and okay with someone else helping her?

She takes a bottle and goes back to sleep nicely

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Bisque

Mon, Nov 27 2023, 12:30 pm

Definitely without a doubt, and I'm the type of parent that would not leave a newborn with a baby nurse even in my house or go away for a Shabbos without any of my kids unless it really can't be helped.

Cookin4days

Mon, Nov 27 2023, 12:44 pm

You know your baby best, if you think she’ll be fine then do it , I’ve had friends leave kids earlier and their babies were fine

Rappel

Mon, Nov 27 2023, 1:00 pm

If she's comfy with grandma, then I would say it's okay

amother

Cerulean

Mon, Nov 27 2023, 1:01 pm

My machateneste and I have been babysitting our dgc--usually in our own homes, not theirs--on an as-needed basis almost since birth. The child is quite used to spending time with one or the other of us when parents are away for up to a week at a time. Maybe more. Since your dc is going to be in her own home, what's the problem if the grandma is someone she knows? If Granny is a complete stranger that would be inadvisable, of course, unless it was a true emergency and a matter of ein brerah.

amother

Cerulean

Mon, Nov 27 2023, 1:03 pm

amother Seafoam wrote:

For a baby it’s traumatic to be separated from their mother. Is it an emergency? If not wait another few months until baby is older.

No it's not. Not unless Granny is a stranger whom she never sees.

amother

Nasturtium

Mon, Nov 27 2023, 1:03 pm

I did it and my 11 month old had a really hard time.

amother

Chambray

Mon, Nov 27 2023, 1:06 pm

amother Nasturtium wrote:

I did it and my 11 month old had a really hard time.

Did the baby stayed at home with their siblings?
When baby is with siblings, especially in their own home, it's generally easy on them that mom is away.

amother

Nasturtium

Mon, Nov 27 2023, 1:14 pm

amother Chambray wrote:

Did the baby stayed at home with their siblings?
When baby is with siblings, especially in their own home, it's generally easy on them that mom is away.

With her older sister at my parents house, where she was very comfortable and spent a lot of time. She just cried a lot, didn’t sleep well and missed me.