Crazy Raizy | Imamother

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NeonPurple

Wed, Dec 06 2023, 9:13 pm

I found that it a lot more painful to have named a child a name you don’t like than dealing with backlash from family after not giving your child the name they expected.

My first baby wasn’t named after family.
The first 2 years the family made a stink out of it and it made me sad but I got over it and we still love her name.

My second I named after family because I didn’t want to deal with the backlash. I thought the name would grow on me.

To this day I hate the name. I call him a nickname but whenever I need to use his legal name or I hear him called to Torah it feels like a stab.
We spoke to a rav about changing his name when he was a few months old and he advised against it.

Please name your baby a name that you like.

amother

RosePink

Wed, Dec 06 2023, 9:15 pm

There’s nothing wrong with raizy and no one would call her “crazy raizy” regularly. Maybe as a joke here and there but people aren’t going to walk around calling her crazy as her actual name.
Is raizy the coolest name? No- it’s not modern or one of the hip names of today. But if you or your husband had warm feelings towards this grandmother it’s a really nice thing to do and in my experience , when you name for this reason, which is well meaning and to carry forward the soul of the person, the name grows on you.

Btw my sisters name is raizy and she’s the most amazing person ever - beautiful inside and out, and the most caring, best wife mom and aunt. Best sister . Because of her I adore the name ! Name has associations
And no one besides me and my other sisters called her crazy raizy and if we did it was in a blue moon and always as an affectionate joke 😀

amother

Wed, Dec 06 2023, 9:19 pm

I'm so happy to hear that most raizys aren't called that! I guess it's really my association with the name that's bothering me. Thanks everyone for your input!

dena613

Wed, Dec 06 2023, 9:31 pm

amother Maroon wrote:

Shoshana has nothing to do with raizel, I’m so confused.
Rose, roiza, are half ways connected to shoshana, but not raizel.

Why not?
In what way is raizel different than rose and roiza?

amother

Denim

Wed, Dec 06 2023, 9:50 pm

amother Maroon wrote:

Shoshana has nothing to do with raizel, I’m so confused.
Rose, roiza, are half ways connected to shoshana, but not raizel.

What does that mean??? Raizel means rose.

amother

Black

Wed, Dec 06 2023, 9:52 pm

amother OP wrote:

In my dh's family, you sort of "have to" name after the closest grandparent or risk having everyone ask a million questions and be potentially upset at u. Like really upset. I wanted to add a name to one grandmother and asked a shaila was told not to. But that name was ok. This I really don't like

Let them ask a million questions. They'll get over it.

amother

Ecru

Wed, Dec 06 2023, 10:55 pm

amother OP wrote:

My husbs grandma's name is raizel. I would have to call the baby raizy. I just can't get myself to do it! It's probably an association from when I was young with a kid we called "crazy raizy" but I feel like it's setting a kid up to be bullied. Not sure what to do....

I had the same exact reaction when my husband wanted to name our daughter Raizel. I opted to focus on what a beautiful name it is, and now all these years later I am so glad. She is my sweet Raizel and I love her name.

ETA: I forgot to mention I had a bad association with the name because of a student named Raizy I had difficulty with. My husband said to forget the student and move on, and I'm glad I did. By now I've completely forgotten about it except when discussions like this come up.

amother

Dustypink

Wed, Dec 06 2023, 11:21 pm

amother Denim wrote:

What does that mean??? Raizel means rose.