Till what age do your kids give mishloach manos?

amother

Sun, Feb 15 2015, 7:52 pm

OP here. Sorry I'm not clear. My teenager told me that last year when he dropped off one of his mishloach manot by a friend the mother started screaming at him and calling him a baby for bringing mishloach manot and asked him when he and her son will grow and stop this. So I am wondering is it normal for a teenage boy to give out mishloach manot to his friends or he should on give his Rebbe and teachers.

momX4

Sun, Feb 15 2015, 7:59 pm

amother wrote:

The mom seems to be unhealthy. I wouldve called the rebbe to make sure the friend receives help.

Tell your ds that is isnt the norm (what that mom said) since everyone gives.

shabbatiscoming

Mon, Feb 16 2015, 12:55 am

amother wrote:

as momx said, it is not your son who is not normal. this mother seemed to have a bee in her bonnet. nothing wrong with giving mishloach manot to friends until 120.

m in Israel

Mon, Feb 16 2015, 1:07 am

amother wrote:

How strange! This woman is definitely not normal. Giving MM is a mitzvah -- why on earth would one "grow out" of doing a a mitzvah??? In any case, since screaming at someone who comes to bring MM is not normal behavior under any circumstances, that should just prove to you that this women is not "100%" and therefore should not be taken seriously.

FWIW -- my husband works in a boys yeshiva (high school and post high school age), and the boys most definitely give each other MM -- as do all the high school aged girls that I know.

imasoftov

Mon, Feb 16 2015, 5:56 am

amother wrote:

What the ...?

zaq

Mon, Feb 16 2015, 9:05 am

amother wrote:

I think the issue is the mother, not your ds. The woman was clearly not playing with a full deck that day. maybe she was stressed out from having to answer the constantly ringing doorbell, or resented having to shell out precious cash for MM for all the classmates of her 17 children, or had just received a whopping dentist's bill for filling her kids' cavities and here they were being inundated with more tooth poison in the form of brightly-colored sugary goods, or maybe she was coming down with the flu and didn't know it yet, or, or, or.

ETA If I had to choose one and not a combo, my vote would be the cash issue, because she said "when will you AND MY SON grow up..." So she had a problem with her son giving to others, too. Why would this bother her unless either it was costing her money that she could not afford or thought she could not afford, or it was "costing" her work, IOW she was doing all the work for her ds MM and she was sick of it? Assuming, of course, that she was mentally OK, which is doubtful. Her reaction was bizarre, even if she was coming down with the flu and worried about making the rent and paying the dentist.