Lakewood Bridal Gown Gmach for New Geiyores

amother

Sun, Mar 13 2022, 10:05 pm

Hi, a young lady is becoming a geiyores and getting married right before Pesach. She asked me to help her find a gown for her wedding, but she won't let me accompany her to navigate the shopping in Lakewood. Can you please recommend a Gmach that will lend or rent her a gown very inexpensively? The Gmach should be staffed by kind people that will help her, as I know she will feel overwhelmed and nervous of both the gown shopping and the unfamiliar culture in Lakewood. Thank you

amother

Oak

Mon, Mar 14 2022, 10:03 am

I really dont mean to be harsh. But she should absolutely have someone accompany her. Or she should be prepared to tell her whole story so that ppl will be nice to her. But if she looks like a regular woman, which I'm sure she does, and she shows up alone being clueless, she will probably have a horrible experience. People here are really amazing. But there is a social code of conduct that is so detailed, that if you look the part, but don't really know the part, it can be a recipe for disaster.

amother

Watermelon

Mon, Mar 14 2022, 10:23 am

amother [ Oak ] wrote:

I’m FFB but not from Lakewood (not yeshivish) so I found this post so curious. Can you expound on what the code of culture is that would make it hard for an outsider to go gown shopping?

amother

Babypink

Mon, Mar 14 2022, 10:30 am

I’m a giyores and I disagree! Most people in Lakewood are very nice! And people aren’t stupid - if she’s shopping alone for a wedding gown they will chap and give extra help and care. I agree that it’s best if she can have someone accompany her, though.

amother

Watermelon

Mon, Mar 14 2022, 10:35 am

amother [ Babypink ] wrote:

Is that what it is? Going alone? I went alone for my wedding gown. I brought my mom to lager fittings but my initial visit was alone. I didn’t realize that was something so unusual.

amother

Broom

Mon, Mar 14 2022, 10:36 am

I don't know the phone number but Bodner has a gemach with beautiful gowns for no charge. I think is called Ateres Esther or something similar and the number is probably in the Lakewood Directory in the yellow pages under gemachs

amother

Salmon

Mon, Mar 14 2022, 10:48 am

amother [ Watermelon ] wrote:

Is that what it is? Going alone? I went alone for my wedding gown. I brought my mom to lager fittings but my initial visit was alone. I didn’t realize that was something so unusual.

Wedding dress shopping you usually bring a sister friend or mother. But why does it matter if she’s a giyores?

amother

Watermelon

Mon, Mar 14 2022, 10:57 am

amother [ Salmon ] wrote:

Wedding dress shopping you usually bring a sister friend or mother. But why does it matter if she’s a giyores?

Eh maybe but I didn’t realize they in and of itself going alone was so strange.

amother

Mon, Mar 14 2022, 12:05 pm

amother [ Oak ] wrote:

I completely agree with you. She won't look the part or act the part, she is really quite clueless. I have no idea why she won't let me help her, she is so hard to read. I don't want to set her up for disaster, but what can I do?

amother

Mon, Mar 14 2022, 12:06 pm

amother [ Broom ] wrote:

Please give me more information about this...can anyone help me with phone numbers or something?

amother

Mon, Mar 14 2022, 12:07 pm

amother [ Babypink ] wrote:

I hope you're right. I hope she doesn't come away feeling stupid and completely stressed.

amother

Lawngreen

Mon, Mar 14 2022, 2:03 pm

When you have the right information, call the gemach and let them know the situation. I'm sure they will be happy to give her the extra time and attention.

amother

Blush

Mon, Mar 21 2022, 11:24 pm

amother [ Oak ] wrote:

What do you mean? What kind of conduct makes you seem “the part”? Laugh