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Should I give a gift?



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amother
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Post Sun, Jul 09 2023, 6:07 pm
Someone I know casually was making a wedding. I didn't expect to be invited.

She called me and asked me some questions related to my area of professional expertise. I made a decision to help her out without charging, for various reasons.

She then invited dh and me to the wedding. I graciously declined as we were not able to attend.

Now, should we be giving a gift?
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amother
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Post Sun, Jul 09 2023, 6:09 pm
If you can afford to give a small token gift it's very nice of you. If not, I wouldn't feel even a little bit bad about it. Free help was sort of a gift already, no?
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amother
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Post Sun, Jul 09 2023, 6:35 pm
Thank you, that's what I was leaning toward.
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amother
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Post Sun, Jul 09 2023, 9:13 pm
Is your area of professional expertise related to planning a wedding? Was the advice or service you gave her related to the wedding? If it was I’d see the invitation as a courtesy. If it wasn’t related at all I’d think there’s a chance she might have invited you anyway.

You can’t go wrong by giving a small gift. Unless you really can’t afford it.
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Post Tue, Jul 11 2023, 2:47 pm
amother OP wrote:
Someone I know casually was making a wedding. I didn't expect to be invited.

She called me and asked me some questions related to my area of professional expertise. I made a decision to help her out without charging, for various reasons.

She then invited dh and me to the wedding. I graciously declined as we were not able to attend.

Now, should we be giving a gift?


I think since this is a casual relationship and not close, you are not obligated. She called you for your professional expertise, not to schmooze or ask about you.

If she has a registry, and you have the spare cash, pick something on the super low end.; A gift is not expected.
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