Did you make good friends at work?

amother

Sun, Aug 27 2023, 7:52 pm

I’m starting a new job soon IYH and would really like to make good friends there. In your experience is it possible to make good friends at work?

amother

Hibiscus

Sun, Aug 27 2023, 7:53 pm

amother OP wrote:

I’m starting a new job soon IYH and would really like to make good friends there. In your experience is it possible to make good friends at work?

Yup, some of my closest friends ever, from every job I’ve ever been to

amother

Hunter

Sun, Aug 27 2023, 7:55 pm

Yes

I’m an introvert and busy with my family but I love coworkers and would enjoy spending time outside work as well.

amother

Lightpink

Sun, Aug 27 2023, 8:12 pm

Yes, but some have turned all cold and businesslike thanks to Do'ehu. Mad

amother

Daffodil

Sun, Aug 27 2023, 8:16 pm

I found my so called "friends" and I from work didn't end up having much in common. After I left my job, we didn't keep in touch. We were very friendly when we were coworkers but there wasn't much to talk about other than work related things

amother

NeonGreen

Sun, Aug 27 2023, 8:17 pm

amother Lightpink wrote:

Yes, but some have turned all cold and businesslike thanks to Do'ehu. Mad

Were they men? Otherwise why?

amother

Lightpink

Sun, Aug 27 2023, 8:22 pm

Yes, but they're former yeshiva guys still kove'a itim, I'm a good frum wife we had boundaries, no need for paranoia.

amother

Sun, Aug 27 2023, 9:07 pm

Not looking for male friends lol! I hope my female coworkers and I hit it off! I’m excited.

amother

Lightpink

Sun, Aug 27 2023, 9:13 pm

I was posting sort of as cautionary tale. I wouldn't have expected things to go this way though I don't think it was bad without them deciding to get all frummy in the end.

zaq

Sun, Aug 27 2023, 9:13 pm

Absolutely. There are some I'm still in touch with even though we haven't worked together in years. If you work full-time, you may spend more time with colleagues than your do with your own family.

amother

NeonGreen

Sun, Aug 27 2023, 9:24 pm

amother Lightpink wrote:

I was posting sort of as cautionary tale. I wouldn't have expected things to go this way though I don't think it was bad without them deciding to get all frummy in the end.

Did you consider them friends before? Or just polite coworkers? Curious what changed.

amother

Azure

Sun, Aug 27 2023, 9:28 pm

Yes. I've made friends with co-workers that I kept up with for a couple of years after we worked together and most of them eventually lost touch, but one of my closest friends today is a coworker I've worked with

amother

Cyclamen

Sun, Aug 27 2023, 9:33 pm

Yes one of my best friends! I’m a few years younger and we were at different stages (I was fresh out of school) she was a young mom but it’s 5 + years later and we speak every single day. We’ve been there for each other through some really rough times. I feel like your friendship with coworkers is different because you see each other every day so you kind of experience the ups and lows. TYH for this friend and for putting us both into that job because I don’t see how else we’d meet!

amother

DarkGreen

Sun, Aug 27 2023, 10:13 pm

yes! my best friend! we worked together for 2 years didn't know each other at all before!

socialbutterfly

Sun, Aug 27 2023, 10:14 pm

Yes!! I love making friend through work. It's a great opportunity. A lot depends on the type of work and the general work environment.

amother

Lightpink

Sun, Aug 27 2023, 11:27 pm

amother NeonGreen wrote:

Did you consider them friends before? Or just polite coworkers? Curious what changed.

Definitely more than "polite coworkers", before they got all holy I wouldn't have said friends but honestly yes, they were.

amother

Floralwhite

Sun, Aug 27 2023, 11:31 pm

Yes made a really good friend at my first job and we've been really close since! (10 years)

amother

Oldlace

Mon, Aug 28 2023, 12:13 am

amother Daffodil wrote:

This has been my experience as well.
We got on extremely well at work and were able to share and chat about things that were not necessarily work related as well as go to each other's simchas. But as soon as we were no longer colleagues, it didn't take long to lose touch.

Highstrung

Mon, Aug 28 2023, 12:18 am

Yes, with one or two . The rest I did not keep in touch with but love to catch up when I meet them.