How far from shul would you buy a house?

amother

Puce

Sun, Apr 28 2024, 12:04 pm

amother OP wrote:

This is really helpful.
A few things:
House is for sure in the eruv
Walk is bout 17 minutes for my husband, 22 for me. I would likely go when there is a simcha, kiddush, etc... most other weeks I would go to shul closer to home
There are plenty of other shuls nearby and closer, just my husband likes this one (very much likes the Rav)
There are other frum families in the area,
Walk is not hilly

I don't think this is temporary..... There are shuls closer but this is the one. Y husband likes.

This changes everything.. If there’s other shuls closer but this is your husbands preference for sure buy it

amother

Acacia

Sun, Apr 28 2024, 12:16 pm

We live a 15-20 minute walk uphill to our Shul. We pass plenty of other shuls on the way- I would definitely buy if everything else is right.
You get used to the walk and schedule the time in to account.
Hatzlacha with the decision

amother

Carnation

Sun, Apr 28 2024, 12:19 pm

Depends on the climate. Growing up in Atlanta I lived a 15-20 minute walk. In East Coast in 10 degrees with snow my husband struggles with more than 10 minutes.

amother

Oak

Sun, Apr 28 2024, 12:21 pm

You arent married to a Shul. Hell live closer to another Shul, begin spending time there, and eventually it’ll become his own.

amother

Oldlace

Sun, Apr 28 2024, 1:48 pm

I think it's fine as long as there's a closer shul available. We also live a bit of a walk from dh's preferred shul, but there's a perfectly serviceable shul 2 blocks away, which is where he goes Friday nights and for mincha/maariv on shabbos, and also when the weather is nasty. During the week, he drives to his preferred shul. He still mainly gets to go to his preferred shul, but he's fine with going to the close one when convenience is more important. It's a different story when there isn't a closer shul. Some men (and my dh is definitely this type) will be lax about minyan attendance when minor obstacles crop up. So the fact that we do have a close place is crucial, no excuses when it's too hot or too rainy or whatever.

amother

Chocolate

Sun, Apr 28 2024, 2:31 pm

I missed out on houses because of this. A year/two later and most houses were already bought off by jews…

amother

Peach

Sun, Apr 28 2024, 2:42 pm

amother OP wrote:

Dh walks every shabbos to a shul that’s a 20-25 walk away. He passes many Shuls on the way but prefers this one. 17-20 min is not crazy but with kids it might be a bit difficult.

amother

Yarrow

Sun, Apr 28 2024, 2:43 pm

My parents live half that distance but with hills and my brothers stopped going to shul with my father at a pretty young age and when married sons and sons in law come for Shabbos or YT they don’t go with him, they go to to a closer minyan.
It works for them, my father is happy for everyone to go where they like but if that’s important to dh to have his family with him it’s good to know it might not happen.

amother

Violet

Sun, Apr 28 2024, 3:55 pm

We bought a house about a twenty minute walk from the shul my husband likes to daven in but there are closer shuls. So my husband usually davens there shabbos mornings and not Friday night or shabbos mincha/maariv. Do you have any younger boys? My 14 year old doesn't like to do the walk so sometimes my husband davens at a closer shuls even though he would prefer to go to "his shul" Also since the shul is a bit further I cant send my 9 year old later in the morning. He would probably daven in shul more often if it was closer

mommyX2

Sun, Apr 28 2024, 4:05 pm

If dh doesn't mind the walk then I'd def consider it. If boys get weary of the walk they can go closer.

amother

Pear

Sun, Apr 28 2024, 4:19 pm

Its not a big deal if there are closer shuls .

When I bought my house ,I made sure theres a shul close by that my bar mitzvah boys could walk to for minyan.
And I dont need to drive them all the time..

amother

Starflower

Sun, Apr 28 2024, 4:33 pm

amother OP wrote:

Then it sounds amazing. Hatzlacha!