Can I name my son the same as my b-I-l?

amother

Tue, May 01 2007, 3:37 pm

Way back when, before I knew I was expecting a boy, I asked my sister if I could name my baby the same name as her husband. (I just like the name) She said it is totally fine. I still like the name best of all... the only thing is maybe I dont like it as much as my other children's names just bc it's been used so much in the family. It's not new.
But I am scared that somehow I may cause hard feelings somewhere. Like maybe my parents who are supersensitive to things, will say I should have named a different name. What do you think - is it ok or not?

shalhevet

Tue, May 01 2007, 3:45 pm

I know plenty of people who have children with the same name as their brothers/ sisters. In fact it's quite common b/c a sibling may have been named after a grandparent and then the other sibling wants to call his/her child after the same g-grandparent.

chocolate moose

Tue, May 01 2007, 3:48 pm

Why not? Is it going to be a problem if they are going to go by the same exact name?

MommyEsty

Tue, May 01 2007, 4:14 pm

im one of 10 my husband is one of 12 kah' that would rule out alot of names for us!

greenfire

Tue, May 01 2007, 5:34 pm

name him what you want ... why would it be a problem ... parents are always sensitive ... if there is someone in the family they are hoping you will name after

Raisin

Wed, May 02 2007, 6:48 am

In my family we all have the same names (named after lubavitch rebbeim and rebbetzins or grandparents.)

Nobody is bothered. But in some circles I see that it is not done to give you child the same name as another family member.

What happens in your family if a child is named after a grandparent?. Does nobody else use that name?

amother

Wed, May 02 2007, 7:32 am

Nobody really named after my grandparents for various reasons, so that isn't such an issue.
I just dont want to cause hard feelings in having my son named the same as another relative. I know I am already causing problems by not naming after my grandparents, which no one else really does either. My grandparents never said 2 words to us, they werent nice to my parents, they could care less if we were dead or alive, and borderline self hating Jews.

shopaholic

Wed, May 02 2007, 12:30 pm

My son has the same name as my BIL (DH's sister's DH) & my brother's 2nd name. Noone had a problem with it.

chen

Wed, May 02 2007, 2:55 pm

Don't you know any families in which every one of the siblings named at least one child after the same grandparent or great-grand? Good grief, I know a woman whose son has the same name as her brother, just that one answers to " Jake" and the other to "Yaki" , and they were not named for the same person. Unusual, maybe, but evidently it is done.

MyKidsRQte

Wed, May 02 2007, 7:25 pm

My son has the same name as my brother, even down to the nickname. They were both named after my grandfather

mimsy7420

Wed, May 02 2007, 8:54 pm

It's very common for uncles and nephews to have the same name. I know some people are against it, but I don't agree.

ChavieK

Thu, May 03 2007, 1:53 am

It's different when you are all naming after s/o, but amother said she just liked the name. If your sis & b-I-l are ok with it you should be too.